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Maybe it's his legacy of kindness that's touched you and made you tearful, Koti?

(X post Koti) I know you're right and, on a good day when I'm not tired or the boys haven't been playing up (DS1 was a horror today too!!) I'm not too bad - buy today she doesn't appear to think I deserve to have any sort of life for myself and should consider myself her taxi, bank, cook and cleaner! Sheesh!

He had a serious weight problem & we were all too polite to pull him up about his takeaway habit. I still feel guilty. Plus he was such a talented & nice bloke. Seems such a waste.

she doesn't appear to think I deserve to have any sort of life for myself and should consider myself her taxi, bank, cook and cleaner! Sheesh!

Oh yes, mine's only 8 & we have this attitude! Were we this self centred as kids?

(probably )

Never!

You see, that's why you're upset. He was a nice bloke, it was a waste and now he's gone - and the money is a reminder of all that. And, how hard is it to tell someone that their addiction is harming them? Some of my friends must have been aware I was drinking too much and (apart from my Northern friend, bless her socks!!) no one could/would say anything - besides - I wouldn't have listened then, I'd probably just have got cross and defensive.

buyer don't worry, your doing amazingly, don't dwell on a teeny weeny blip, your doing amazingly, help hope you feel better soon, sending hugs x x x

PS Did anyone else see the American programme 'My 600 pound life'? It struck me, for the first time, that these overweight people were suffering from very similar emotional etc problems to myself - just their 'choice' of addiction was different. I had never thought of obesity as a parallel to alcoholism before.

One word Purple - GIRLS.

The can be vile, they can be sweetness and light. They can crush your heart with one single line, and then they can bring you a cup of tea and a biscuit when they know that you are unlikely to get a hot meal tonight because your DH is away.

DD and I have had our moments and she has literally driven me to drink bottles of wine in the past. Bottles. I'm not going to say it gets easier, it gets different.

DD is being bullied as I've said, I am trying my best not to get too involved at this stage, keeping my distance but standing beside DD to catch her if she needs me too.

Her natural father is also being a twat, her little brother is poorly and in her eyes, I have been taken away from her, again.

There are so many things that we don't always see or feel but it's there in their world.

My advice? Take some time out. Saf said 3 minutes is a good time out once and I have to say that it works for me.

She also knows how to get to you, and I'd lay my furry little mousey bottom on the line and say that she has a touch of you in her too? My mother loves how DD is with me, she says it's her revenge.

Help - yes, Ma and IsinDe not sure who was going to do what and here he is, my little fighter, after an hour of fighting me, is now cradled on my lap, snuggled in one of DD's blankets from when she was a baby. It has little multi-coloured rabbits on it, he looks so small.

He is small for his age but tonight, he looks tiny. Maybe because I've struggled to get stuff done and CBA to continue now..... I want my bed. His feed is running so I'm going to wait and try to talk to DH, tell him I love him and then close the door on the day.

Kiki - how are you holding out? Well done on the sparkling water! Now, quick, PJs and TEETH!

Thanks Babyjane
Night all, sleep sweetly. x

Thanks Babyjane and all you lovely hand holders and hair strokers.
Night all, sleep sweetly. x

Oh for goodness sake.

Am ok thanks mouse...will not succumb!!! Xxx

(Ha! I can be a good Mum sometimes! Just been in to 'tuck' the Rattle Snake in, stroke her hair, say good night and tell her I love her.)

Thanks purple, that makes sense - yes, I saw that too, plus I'm about 50 pounds overweight myself & the two addictions do seem very similar to me too.

Hello Babes

I'm about 6 stone overweight, and I know that my food addiction and alcohol problems are closely linked. If I'm doing one, I'm usually doing the other.

Wish me luck - story nearly finished, 1,500 word essay to do before bedtime. Toodle pip xxx

Wishing you luck, Sunny. I can't keep my eyes open so have huge respect for you getting on with the task in hand. Have a lovely hot chocolate or something - to keep you going. x

Almost missed the bus! New thread, new Tristessa - brilliant

Hi there sunny and shake nice to meet you.

Hope you feel better soon help, tooth pain is one of the worst things ever <shudder>

Day 2 and really want some tomato juice. I went into M&S and they didn't have any! Clearly it isn't "naice" Plenty of wine but I don't have to drink that any more. Or dispose of the bottles and all that effort involved...

Orf to Bedforshire soon, but just wanted to say that I'm really grateful to you all for keeping me going over this last week or so.

Thank you Babes

Night xxxx

Hi everyone, really in awe of you Shake and how you've managed to reclaim your life, don't give your wobble a second thought. One of the worst things for me too when I was drinking was waking in the early hours to the crushing realisation that I'd gone and done it again....Such an empty feeling.

Sleep well Mouse, what a week it's been for you and how lucky Nemo is to have you for his mum. Hope you're OK Joey and sleeping better.

In bed-dh and mil downstairs drinking red. I had some cheese and biscuits with them and glass water. V v pleased with self!! Nighty all xxx

Well done Kiki that's great stuff

<<claims seat>>

<<wonders where Joey is>> You alright duck??

Night night my lovely babes, night 3 and still going strong and its al because of you all, big hugs and sweet dreams and sincere thanks for the strength you have all shown me is possible x x x

wish I was going to bed, finishing yet another assignment :-(

night all.

Hello all
Kotinka I hope you're asleep by now. I've just got up to do an essay - 1500 words by 8.15!
Have a good day Babes, will check in later. Mwah. xxx