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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Spicing Up The Winter Nights With Rich Hot Chocolate And Thermal Tights!

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Mouseface Tue 27-Nov-12 21:13:48

Hello, I'm Mouse smile

I'm one of the Brave Babes travelling on this fantabulous Bus, on it's journey to the wonderful world of sobriety. smile

The great thing is, that the people on here are a real mixed bunch. Some are drinking regularly, some aren't. Some are sober and have been for any number of days, some weeks, months and yep, some even for years.

There's no judging pants allowed, no savoury flans either wink, just lots of unconditional support from many varied sources. Yes, some of us have been here from the start but please don't let that stop you posting, this thread is for EVERYONE and it always has been smile

If you'd like to have a look back, here are some links. One to the previous thread and one to the very first, and the reason we are all still here.

See you soon,

Mouse xx

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PurpleWolfe Wed 28-Nov-12 20:26:52

Maybe it's his legacy of kindness that's touched you and made you tearful, Koti?

PurpleWolfe Wed 28-Nov-12 20:30:52

(X post Koti) I know you're right and, on a good day when I'm not tired or the boys haven't been playing up (DS1 was a horror today too!!) I'm not too bad - buy today she doesn't appear to think I deserve to have any sort of life for myself and should consider myself her taxi, bank, cook and cleaner! Sheesh!

kotinka Wed 28-Nov-12 20:32:09

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kotinka Wed 28-Nov-12 20:33:36

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PurpleWolfe Wed 28-Nov-12 20:40:29

Never! grin

You see, that's why you're upset. He was a nice bloke, it was a waste and now he's gone - and the money is a reminder of all that. And, how hard is it to tell someone that their addiction is harming them? Some of my friends must have been aware I was drinking too much and (apart from my Northern friend, bless her socks!!) no one could/would say anything - besides - I wouldn't have listened then, I'd probably just have got cross and defensive.

babyjane1 Wed 28-Nov-12 20:41:23

buyer don't worry, your doing amazingly, don't dwell on a teeny weeny blip, your doing amazingly, help hope you feel better soon, sending hugs x x x

PurpleWolfe Wed 28-Nov-12 20:44:26

PS Did anyone else see the American programme 'My 600 pound life'? It struck me, for the first time, that these overweight people were suffering from very similar emotional etc problems to myself - just their 'choice' of addiction was different. I had never thought of obesity as a parallel to alcoholism before.

Mouseface Wed 28-Nov-12 20:45:52

One word Purple - GIRLS.

The can be vile, they can be sweetness and light. They can crush your heart with one single line, and then they can bring you a cup of tea and a biscuit when they know that you are unlikely to get a hot meal tonight because your DH is away.

DD and I have had our moments and she has literally driven me to drink bottles of wine in the past. Bottles. I'm not going to say it gets easier, it gets different.

DD is being bullied as I've said, I am trying my best not to get too involved at this stage, keeping my distance but standing beside DD to catch her if she needs me too.

Her natural father is also being a twat, her little brother is poorly and in her eyes, I have been taken away from her, again.

There are so many things that we don't always see or feel but it's there in their world.

My advice? Take some time out. Saf said 3 minutes is a good time out once and I have to say that it works for me.

She also knows how to get to you, and I'd lay my furry little mousey bottom on the line and say that she has a touch of you in her too? My mother loves how DD is with me, she says it's her revenge. hmm

Help - yes, Ma and IsinDe not sure who was going to do what and here he is, my little fighter, after an hour of fighting me, is now cradled on my lap, snuggled in one of DD's blankets from when she was a baby. It has little multi-coloured rabbits on it, he looks so small.

He is small for his age but tonight, he looks tiny. Maybe because I've struggled to get stuff done and CBA to continue now..... I want my bed. His feed is running so I'm going to wait and try to talk to DH, tell him I love him and then close the door on the day.

Kiki - how are you holding out? Well done on the sparkling water! Now, quick, PJs and TEETH! grin

helpyourself Wed 28-Nov-12 20:48:19

Thanks Babyjane
Night all, sleep sweetly. x

helpyourself Wed 28-Nov-12 20:49:31

Thanks Babyjane and all you lovely hand holders and hair strokers.
Night all, sleep sweetly. x

helpyourself Wed 28-Nov-12 20:50:06

Oh for goodness sake.
blush

kikilondon Wed 28-Nov-12 20:58:35

Am ok thanks mouse...will not succumb!!! Xxx

PurpleWolfe Wed 28-Nov-12 21:00:33

(Ha! I can be a good Mum sometimes! Just been in to 'tuck' the Rattle Snake in, stroke her hair, say good night and tell her I love her.)

kotinka Wed 28-Nov-12 21:02:21

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Sunnywithachanceofshowers Wed 28-Nov-12 21:16:19

Hello Babes

I'm about 6 stone overweight, and I know that my food addiction and alcohol problems are closely linked. If I'm doing one, I'm usually doing the other.

Wish me luck - story nearly finished, 1,500 word essay to do before bedtime. Toodle pip xxx

PurpleWolfe Wed 28-Nov-12 21:21:17

Wishing you luck, Sunny. I can't keep my eyes open so have huge respect for you getting on with the task in hand. Have a lovely hot chocolate or something - to keep you going. x

Tristessa Wed 28-Nov-12 21:29:07

Almost missed the bus! New thread, new Tristessa - brilliant grin

Hi there sunny and shake nice to meet you.

Hope you feel better soon help, tooth pain is one of the worst things ever <shudder>

Day 2 and really want some tomato juice. I went into M&S and they didn't have any! Clearly it isn't "naice" shock Plenty of wine but I don't have to drink that any more. Or dispose of the bottles and all that effort involved...

Mouseface Wed 28-Nov-12 21:36:56

Orf to Bedforshire soon, but just wanted to say that I'm really grateful to you all for keeping me going over this last week or so.

Thank you Babes

Night xxxx

SobaSoma Wed 28-Nov-12 21:55:44

Hi everyone, really in awe of you Shake and how you've managed to reclaim your life, don't give your wobble a second thought. One of the worst things for me too when I was drinking was waking in the early hours to the crushing realisation that I'd gone and done it again....Such an empty feeling.

Sleep well Mouse, what a week it's been for you and how lucky Nemo is to have you for his mum. Hope you're OK Joey and sleeping better.

kikilondon Wed 28-Nov-12 22:21:45

In bed-dh and mil downstairs drinking red. I had some cheese and biscuits with them and glass water. V v pleased with self!! Nighty all xxx

greeneyed Wed 28-Nov-12 22:47:53

Well done Kiki that's great stuff

GoldenAutumn Wed 28-Nov-12 23:03:05

<<claims seat>>

<<wonders where Joey is>> You alright duck??

babyjane1 Wed 28-Nov-12 23:13:06

Night night my lovely babes, night 3 and still going strong and its al because of you all, big hugs and sweet dreams and sincere thanks for the strength you have all shown me is possible x x x

kotinka Thu 29-Nov-12 00:29:33

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Sunnywithachanceofshowers Thu 29-Nov-12 05:52:05

Hello all
Kotinka I hope you're asleep by now. I've just got up to do an essay - 1500 words by 8.15!
Have a good day Babes, will check in later. Mwah. xxx

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