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Twitter/facebook I love you's?

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donotsquandertime Mon 01-Oct-12 20:35:33

Just curious really, if any of you have twitter or facebook do you message your partner in the day with I love you's/make statements on twitter sort of " I am so lucky have best husband" type of thing, norm or not ?

missymoomoomee Mon 01-Oct-12 20:39:38

This makes me absolutely cringe.

You could text/message/phone/wait to say it in person, why do it in public. I think I must be abnormal though since nearly everyone I know does it.

snowmummy Mon 01-Oct-12 20:41:13

I have a facebook and a twitter account but I don't see the need to use it to leave I love you messages for my husband. I see him everyday, and I can tell him then if I want. IMO those types of message are aimed at everyone else not the hubby, in a 'my life is so great, aren't you envious' sort of way. Cynical? Me?

greeneyed Mon 01-Oct-12 20:41:16

Pass me a bucket

picnicbasketcase Mon 01-Oct-12 20:41:38

I think it's rather exhibitionist. Text or ring and say it, there's no need to display it to everyone you know. I have people in my list who do it all the time and I can't work out why they need 600 other people to see it.

madonnawhore Mon 01-Oct-12 20:41:45

I always assume people who do this have shitty relationships.

snowmummy Mon 01-Oct-12 20:43:36

Yep me too madonnawhore

madonnawhore Mon 01-Oct-12 20:44:52

In fact I have one friend who does this all the time. And I know she and her husband have been on the verge of splitting up numerous times. Her husband's a total cock.

donotsquandertime Mon 01-Oct-12 20:49:12

Oh phew thought it was just me and you were all going to say "how romantic", I find it very odd I have a friend who constantly makes statements about how privileged she is to have such a fab husband I am very hmm

lisaro Mon 01-Oct-12 20:54:46

No, I finished puberty years ago. wink

TakeMyEyesButNotTheGoat Mon 01-Oct-12 20:57:56

Someone I know who is a friend of a friend (I also used to hang around with her years ago, she's a bit flaky) always gushes about her wonderful Husband. I mean on a daily basis.

I'm always hmm because I know for a fact she shags around behind his back!

Over compensating IMO!

BizarreLoveTriangle Mon 01-Oct-12 20:59:54

Aimed at everybody but the husband.

bushymcbush Mon 01-Oct-12 21:01:27

My DH insists on sending me vom inducing FB messages on our anniversary. I have to force myself to return the favour because he'd be really hurt if I didn't, but it makes me want to eat my own head when he does it.

Things he says to me that no one else can hear mean infinitely more. On FB it feels like it's all for show.

I really did have to have a quiet word with him the time he referred to me as 'hunni' on FB. Nipped that in the bud sharpish.

donotsquandertime Mon 01-Oct-12 21:08:12

haha bushy yes that is a bit much could be worse could be the dreaded "babe"
smile

I had to hide BIL and he ghastly girlfriend because of this kind of stuff. One day I counted and they'd said "I love you baby" or some variation SEVENTEEN times. <boak>

missymoomoomee Mon 01-Oct-12 21:13:55

Its even worse when couples do 'check ins' on facebook from their bed.

missymoomoomee Mon 01-Oct-12 21:13:56

Its even worse when couples do 'check ins' on facebook from their bed.

tzella Mon 01-Oct-12 21:21:55

My (genuinely beautiful) cousin does this but only twice a year. On her birthday (posts pics of a billion red roses and says how much she <3 him) or their anniversary (post pics of some jewelry and says how much she <3 him). She also posts pics of how she's painted her nails to match her floor mop.

I am secretly vvv envy that she's so happy but forgive her as she's an absolute sweetheart. Less nice people can FOAD angry

stifnstav Mon 01-Oct-12 21:32:28

I had a rant about the exact same thing on my blog a few weeks ago.

I shall c&p:

There’s those irritating instances of congratulating people who are not on Facebook ON FACEBOOK. They can’t see it so why are you doing that?!

“Happy Anniversary to my gorgeous (or gawjus… cringe) husband/wife, love you babes/hun”, usually accompanied by the obligatory photo of whatever generic gift they bought.

If I can see that your spouse is not on Facebook and therefore cannot see your gushing message, why have you done that? Is it for my benefit and that of 400 strangers? Are you over-compensating or what?

If anything, these unilateral public displays of affection suggest to the reader that something is amiss in your relationship. You are telling the world that everything is fabulous. You are not saying it to the person who you should be saying it to. Because they aren’t on Facebook!

It’s only about the appearance of your relationship to others and it’s nothing to do with whether your relationship actually reflects what you’re saying to the world.

I can imagine the conversation: “Darling, I put a message on Facebook saying happy anniversary to you, but you won’t have seen it because you aren’t on Facebook”.

Spouse: “Er, ok. Thanks for that.” Spouse then wonders whether they were meant to put a message on Twitter, even though the other half is not on Twitter.

Anyway, please feel free to share a link to this blog if you love someone, even if that person doesn’t know how to work the internet.

Mylittlepuds Mon 01-Oct-12 21:37:35

It's awful. My DH sent on FB but why feel you need to do it a public forum? A friend, who is becoming increasingly annoying and might soon be an ex friend, does this. Things like "Today is the the day I met my best friend and I've never been happier in all my life smile)))))) xxxxxx". She then tags her husband.

The truth is though not sooo long ago she was on the verge of having an affair and was thinking about ending things. I reckon this is often the reality with these couples - why else the big display? Nothing makes me cringe more. Why not just tell your DH privately? Why? Why?!! I'm getting wound up thinking about it.

Ditto the people that use FB to tell their children how much they love them/wish them happy birthday etc etc Eh?! They can't hear you you dick. Sorry.

lisaro Mon 01-Oct-12 21:43:00

I'll don my hard hat here. It's akin to people 'renewing' their wedding vows (that don't actually run out). Most people just wonder which of them cheated.

browniebear Mon 01-Oct-12 21:45:11

On a similar note I can never fathom why some people put things like 'ds/dd is adorable, love you so much sweetheart'

When their ds/dd is about 2 and would have no idea about Facebook.
We all love our children that's obvious but there's just no need to constantly remind everyone that you still love them

flowerygirl Mon 01-Oct-12 21:47:11

Haha missymoomoomee, I can't stand it when people do bed check ins!

I also can't stand it when people post photos of gifts! They may as well upload a photo of the receipt...

There's one woman on my facebook who is always gushing about her husband 'aww I wish hubby would wake up so I can have a cuddle'. PASS ME THE SICK BUCKET! I would unfriend her but I keep her on for entertainment value!

Oh god the check-ins! They do this too!

Probably outing myself here, as I can't see ANYONE else doing this ever! But once she tagged him in a check-in....IN THE BATH!

LilPud Mon 01-Oct-12 22:01:01

And don't forget the pics of what they had for tea, tag the dh and he comments 'yum, my wife is the best cook ever'

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