A close friend is having a rough time- her DH has left her. The marriage has not been good for years and years and the split is not a surprise to me.
I've been a good friend for over 25 years, but I recently told her some "gentle" home truths about the way she treated her DH. I don't want to list those events here in case it outs her, but she has done some pretty rotten things to him and basically I think he just had enough one day.
In the past I bit my tongue which was possibly a mistake- but now that she is blaming him 99% for the split, I couldn't help remind her of some things she'd done over the years, to try to help her see it was not " all him".
I did this to try to help her stop seeing herself as the "victim".
Well, she didn't like it- and although we've spoken since, the last conversation wasn't mentioned and she was very cool with me.
I'm left wondering if a good friend says things as they are- where do we go next- should I say sorry, or what? It's worth my mentioning that in my own marital troubles over the years she has really not pulled any punches with her views- often hurtful - but I bounced back. But she seems to be holding a grudge now, and surrounding herself with "yes" friends.
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Have you ever lost a friend by telling home truths?
PeterPanandWendy · 26/07/2012 18:02
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