Hi everyone, my wife told me about this site a few years back when we had our first daughter, and I thought some of you ladies (and gents) may be able to help me out with some advice, because i really am in a bit of a mess.
I met my wife nearly seven years ago, and we have been married for five years. We have two beautiful little girls aged 4 1/2 and 2yrs, who I love dearly.
I love my wife with all my heart, but I have always been rubbish at opening up and showing my true feelings.
This sunday just passed, my wife told me that she wants to split up and that i need to move out of the house. This hit me like a ton of bricks.
She has fired a couple of warning shots across my bow before in the past, and i have made an effort for a few weeks and slipped back into my old routine!
basically I work long hours, and I'm often away once or twice a week, with one or two weeks away around the globe. I've buried myself in work, especially for the past couple of years, and I really haven't paid my wife or my girls as much attention as I should have done.
My wife suffers from anxiety and after she gave birth to our second daughter, she began to lose her hair from alopecia.
She says she still loves me dearly, and that she would die for me, but she's just had enough and has felt so lonely for two years.
Like I said this has hit me really hard, much harder than any other relationship breakdown. I've just turned 40 and have decided to change my life around. I've booked in for a session with a Relate councellor on saturday, and I've got hypnotherapy booked to help me give up smoking - and I'm going to start working out at the gym (something that my wife loves to do and has been trying to get me to do for ages). I'm not doing it for her, I'm doing it for myself and my kids, to demonstrate to her that I mean business.
My wife is on anti-depressants, and has been for a year or more - they are definitely not helping her, and it's almost as though she is bipolar. I'm really worried about her, and I would do anything to turn back the clock.
I basically haven't helped out in the mornings, I've neglected her, and I've not listened to her cries for help - and now i am paying the price.
If I could turn back the clock i'd tell her every day that I love her, I'd get up at the same time as her and help out with the girls.
I've been a fool, and i really don't know what to do.
I'm going to honour her wishes and move out so she can try to sort her head out. She said I can have the girls and see them as often as i like - that's not a problem.
I just love her so much, and it's killing me... Help!!!
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Eversosorry · 25/07/2012 14:45
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