Ok, so I know that it is only me who can answer this question, but I am struggling with it as I am losing confidence in my ability to make the right decisions.
My p and I have been together for about 3.5 years, living together in a lovely home for 2. I have two older children - 21 and 23. His are primary school age. I brought my kids up on my own, having left their dad when they were tiny.
In short p is loving, kind, good at conversation, nice to my kids, nice to his kids, but I have fallen out of love with him and I can't bear to have sex with him. I try and arrange to go out when he is in, so that when he is out of the house, I am in and alone. I love it when he is away for a couple of nights and get very fed up if he says he is going to be home early. I like going to parties and social gatherings on my own, or with my two grown up kids.
My theory is that
a) I spent so long as an adult on my own, in no relationshiup, that I find living with someone difficult. And he is very very untiday and even dirty which, although I am not very houseproud at all myself, I find v difficult
b) we met when he was married (not something i am proud of) and we worked together - he was senior director although not my boss. he lost his job and although doing ok, is doing a job that I have no respect for or interest in.
did I fall in love with a man becuase he was important/had status and was unavailable and does that mean I can't regain what i used to feel for him?
We do not have kids together and I am 50.
would love to hear thoughts/experiences of others
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should i leave my partner?
jsilvia · 10/07/2012 15:50
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