Sorry this may be long.
6 months ago we moved out of London because we had had our first child and could no longer live in a 1 bedroom flat and couldn't afford anywhere else locally. This was also around the time of the London bombings and my DH just wanted to leave ASAP. We decided to move to Oxford, close enough to London to maintain friendships but far away enough to have quality of life...
Since we moved it has gone completely tits up and I have ended feeling really awful and filled with absolute utter dispair. I have had to cope with a very active toddler, on my own, with no friends, no family, trying to work 3 days a week in a stressful job, and a DH with his own issues. Even our once very happy marriage is now going wrong.
My parents went on and on about how if we moved to be near them then they would always be on hand to help, I wouldn't have to pay for childcare (my mum has a big issues about paying for childcare - and working mothers too, come to think of it...). So conceding defeat, we have decided to move back home and try and start a new life (again). We have no jobs, nothing, we are just upping and leaving here, mainly because i have been feeling so awful.
Now it comes to it, and the move is imminent (next week) my parents have back tracked on all of their so-called promises and will not offer help eith DS, or much else really. My mum has backed out of helping with childcare for when I find work as she 'may have other things on and don't want to tie up my time'. She won't even care for him while i try and help my DH with the move. As the thread title says, I find asking for help really HARD, yet whenever I do pluck up the courage to ask my parents, they only very GRUDGINGLY agree, which I think is worse than just saying no. It just makes me feel bad and guilty and it is just easier to crack on and do it myself.
I feel completely abandonned and unsupported. Since we left London I have given everything up for supposed 'quality of life' yet I have ended up with no friends, no job, a dysfuntional relationship and have had to give up all of the things which I enjoy. I am really now at the end of my tether and I don't know how to get out of this hole. I just want to go away (by myself) and hide for a long time. If I hear my mum say 'motherhood is so hard' one more time, I will bloody scream.
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I find asking for help really HARD....
inthedumps · 22/02/2006 17:13
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