Can anyone help, I've been reading the emotional abuse thread for about 2 hours now trying to decide if this applies to me and can't decide if I'm overreacting.
I'm 3 months pregnant and just don't feel like my hb is looking after me at all. He gets upset and angry with me and goes in moods with me for things like: watching tv for an hour, sitting and reading a book, going to bed early. He claims I'm ignoring him. He got angry with me the other night because I made myself something to eat before he got home, as I was going out to a regular practice that I go to at the same time every week. Normally he isn't home in time to eat with me so I assumed things were the same as normal. When I try and tell him he's being unreasonable and that I just need to rest/eat/sleep/relax etc he just says that 'we're just different' and I don't care about things being 'special' or making things nice or exciting, which is just totally untrue! I do loads of cooking nice dinners etc but I just can't do it every single night, especially when we're both busy. He accuses me of being harsh and critical which is just the opposite of my actual personality - I'm usually too forgiving and will do anything to avoid a fight, but he gets me really upset. If I try and tell him how I feel he starts swearing at me and saying he's not going to listen to me shouting at him, even when I think I'm just talking calmly. Then when I start to get angry and upset he becomes really calm and starts asking why we can't just be nice to each other!
This probably doesn't make any sense and is far too long, I don't know if it's him or just me being oversensitive (he says I'm very sensitive and can't deal with anyone being angry with me). This happened before I got pregnant actually but I just feel like I can't deal with it now and it isn't fair on me or the baby. I can't concentrate on work or anything and don't really know what to do.
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am I overreacting
sweetpea36 · 30/11/2011 15:51
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