How does your dh show he loves you?

[foreverchangingname]

Just curious, leading on from the other, feeling invisible thread.

[foreverchangingname]

That sounds fab! How long have you been together?

[JosieRosie]

Lovely examples Violet

Mine is very physically affectionate - he hardly ever walks past me at home without some kind of hug, kiss, pat on bum! At a bare minimum he makes kissy noises when he sees me

Calls me loads of cute names (not everyone's cup of tea I know, but I love it!)

Always helps out with washing up while I cook and asks if he can do anything to help

Stops singing out loud/similar annoying behaviour if I ask him to

Listens to me when I'm upset and never makes me feel that I'm over reacting, even when sobbing

Offered to come to GP with me this morning and made me promise to text him with result when I said I was fine to go alone

Shows an interest in my career and achievements

Loves a good gossip!

[foreverchangingname]

Definitely need to know how long any of you who reply have been together with your dp's as it seems relevant. Please post that too!

[JosieRosie]

6 and a half years, living together just over 3, no DCs

[foreverchangingname]

Can we clone these good men so there are more about for everyone??!?

[Claragoesbumpsinthenight]

been together 6 years out of 10, two ds aged 4 and 3-
Buying me a can of Irn Bru from the garage.
hanging up clothes on the clothes horse!
who said romance was dead??

[latrucha]

Many things, the most significant of which at the moment are getting up with the early bird DCs and letting me sleep until 7.30 and taking time out of a working day to look after them once a month or so so I can go and do something that is really important to me right now.

[RoaminGloamin]

If we're vegetating sitting on sofa watching tv and I even hint that I fancy something to eat or drink, he'll be on his feet asking what it is so he can go and get it
If I'm ill he'll get up early with DC and let me lie in even though he's up really early every weekday
He phones to let me know he's on way home and always offers to go to shops if I need anything
He pays everything for my DC from first marriage as ex H doesn't pay any maintenance and I don't work atm (and has not once complained)
Regularly tells me I'm very attractive (I'm not - I'm 40's and 3 stone overweight!)
Encourages me to spend money on myself
Regularly sneaks up behind me and puts his arms around me
Tells me I can do whatever I want in life as he will support it
When we got married said he was humbled to be my husband

I could go on - I realise how lucky I am after being in a crap marriage first time around and reading the many stories on MN

[TheOriginalFAB]

Brings me drinks and pudding after dinner. Will do any job I ask him too. Never says no to a cuddle. Makes me feel safe. Rings/texts every day to check I am okay and find out what I have been doing. If I have a difficult appointment to go to/call to make he will text me before and after.

[TheOriginalFAB]

Together 16 years in January and married for 12.3 years.

[openerofjars]

9 years.

He puts up with me.
He makes me tea.
He is loads calmer than me.
He promises to wash my car.
He has one and a bit children with me.
He cleans the child that isn't in ky abdomen.
He supports my lifelong learning and my career.
He talks sense when I am all about the drama.
He is good in a crisis.
He is kind to my relatives.
He buys me unsuitable treats and does not judge.
He worries about my car and reminds me to get it serviced.
He buys great birthday presents.
He eats vegetables he dislikes quite often because I like them.

[ledkr]

He gets up lots with our baby cos he knows thats the bit i hate,even if he has work.I have to insist on doing my turn.

Brings me tea in bed if we are awake early.

Does some school runs on his days off cos he knows i get fed up with them.

Bought me diamond earings for having dd.

Sends me texts randomly to tell me im amzing and that he loves me more than ever.

I had a right bastard before him tho so i was well due a good one

[JosieRosie]

'Does domestic stuff without wanting a medal for it'

Mine does this too and I think it's one of my favourites!

forever, are you having a hard time with your bloke?

[lelainapierce]

Oh God, this thread is making me want to cry!

I WANT THIS!

[foreverchangingname]

Sorry I didn't come back!

I feel like mine doesn't show he loves me really (if he does as im beginning to doubt this) so wondered what others do.

Some of this is lovely. I also thought I might be inspired to think positively about dh. So here goes....

is nice and balanced and counters my personality
Doesn't complain he gets up earlier to go to work than I do.
Ok I'm struggling to think of anything. So here's what he doesn't do...

Never says he loves me unprompted. If I say it first often he just says nothing. :(

Never ever hugs me first no matter what crap has happened.

If I'm I'll eg being sick in the loo, leaves me to it, rather than offering a glass of water or just asking if I'm okay.

Walks off half way through a chat sometimes.

Hmmm.

[LynetteScavo]

But it doesn't mean he doesn't love you.

I would hate anybody near me/asking if I was OK if I was being sick.

DH actually finds me being sick hilarious.

I know he loves me because he brings me a cup of tea in bed in the morning. And basically puts up with me, and supports me in everything I do. Even the misguided things.

[PreHeatedOven]

Oh forever!
Been in very similar situation and understand how you feel. It really made me question my self worth.

[PreHeatedOven]

[DaydreamDolly]

I asked him for diamond earrings and he smiled and offered me a pearl necklace instead. Ahhhh.

[Taffeta]

Watches stuff on telly I want without complaining - wouldn't go and watch elsewhere as wants to be together
Always wants us together as a family wherever possible
Makes me drinks every evening
Always says he loves me on the phone
Respects my opinions, esp about work

Been together 9 years this month, 2 DC.

[CailinDana]

DH and I have been together for 10 years, married for three.

He tells me he loves me often throughout the day
Is very affectionate and kisses and hugs me a lot
Has insisted on doing his share of looking after DS since he was born despite working full time
Makes me tea and coffee all the time even though he doesn't drink either of those himself
Cooks just about every night
Listens when I say something is wrong and tries his best to make it better - doesn't always get it right, but I can forgive that.
Is interested in what I have to say and will always ask my opinion on things
Is a fantastic dad
Looks after me when I'm ill
Listens to my problems even when I talk endlessly about them
Tells me I'm gorgeous and has faith in my abilities
Is very kind and gentle
Never blames me for anything, even he might have cause to
Never gets angry or even mildly annoyed with me
Looks at me like I'm the best thing in the world
Tells me that I make him very happy, that he feels lucky to have me and that I'm the best wife ever :)


He drives me mad sometimes but most of the time I feel very lucky to have him :)

[MedusaIsHavingABadHairDay]

Every morning I get a text saying 'love you.. hope your day goes well'

Weekends he always brings me toast and coffee and laptop in bed:)

Accepts that I have totally different interests ..as does he, and gives me space for them.

Puts up with my total inability to listen to a whole conversation

Absolutely shares all home chores, all child related issues; he isn't afraid to be physically affectionate with our older teens and they adore him for it.

He still lets me know he finds me attractive.

He tells me off for not spending any money on myself, tho he never treats himself either.

He supports my decisions about my job even when I make mistakes!

We have been together 23 years , married for 21 and I do know how lucky I am...