Sporadic poster/keen lurker with new seasonal name asking for advice please :)
When I say asking him to stop smoking I mean Weed.
DP has been a habitual user (all evening after work and all day at weekends) since I met him 5 years ago.
I myself am not into that scene and never was but took the 'live and let live' approach when we met.
I used to smoke (cigarettes only though) up until 8 mths ago so know what its like to believe you can't live without a 'substance' sorry, can't think of a better word there.
However, his Weed habit is impacting on our relationship - always has I suppose but am only now really coming to fully realise this. All I can think is that I had a bit of a head in the sand approach to it before.
Anyway, sorry, rambling now. DP claims that his use has no impact on anything and that he is the same with or without it.
I think differently however, depending on how much he?s had he gets very unsociable and just wants to sit on his games console, has no interest in organising anything or going anywhere and it makes him v. tired the next day which means that weekends are largely spent sleeping until late while I see to any food shopping, housework etc.
Everytime I think about asking him to stop though I feel as if I'm being incredibly sanctimonious, I mean a) I knew about his weed smoking habit when we met and b) I wouldn't like it if he told me I could no longer have a couple of glasses of wine at the weekend.
Any thoughts gratefully received :)
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Can I ask DP to stop smoking?
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PartridgeinaPeartree · 29/11/2010 09:52
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