Hello,
First time on here and looking for some advice from other parents. My ex has been trying to get back together with me for 9 months, left him in February following a 2 year long relationship and we had a 9 month old son together (yes, we hadn't been together long when it all happened)my ex was emotionally abusive and used to come home and shout at me and call me names for just about any old reason. When I started to defend myself during the relationship following counselling he started manhandling me, getting rougher, doing things like grabbing my neck and pushing me to the ground, threatening me and things like that. He was a good guy when he wasn't stressed but really pants at supporting me with my little one. I first left him in November and he chucked me around the kitchen and pinned me against the wall, I ended up calling the police for help to leave the property with my son and he got me arrested on suspicion of assault saying I had pushed him (which, by the way wasn't true.)
Since then he's been going to counselling, given up smoking, coffee and has become a very much better father to the little one. He's still been a bit threatening (he threatened to tell my family about a really painful and difficult thing I had told him about my brother early on in our relationship) but his behaviour has improved. I can't believe I am writing this but do you think there is any hope for this man?? He has been working on his problems, granted, but when I think back I am still so furious about everything that happened.
Despite the fact I think I must be insane for even thinking about going back- if I were to go back how long do you think I should let him carry on the counselling for before I do?
My life has been so much better without him in it and feel like I've rebuilt everything. Got a house now, job, doing masters, my little one is doing great, it seems so risky to take a chance on him?! But there is a part of me that can't let go of being a family. Must be mad. Someone help me see sense.
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