Stupid Pig of a Man

[trappedfool]

So the wanker that is my P, rolls out of bed at half one today, then an hour or so later says he is dropping up to his friend for half an hour 'don't worry I'm not going out to watch the match' says he
So I ask him can he get some milk for me before he goes as Cupboards are bare, but can make do til children are in bed then pop to Tescos. So he brings back the milk and a kitkat for me....and the cunt disappears for the day!
Not one call, text; doesnt answer his phone.
So come 11o'clock I ring his loser mate who tries to cover for the asshole so I put my sweetest reasonable partner voice on and pretend I'm just coming out to collect my car then I finally get the loser himself onto the phone and the convo starts like this:
Me: Where are you
P(for prick): In the 'white Horse'
Me: Why?
P:cos the 'Red Lion' is closed
Me: I have no food for the (4) dcs lunches tomorrow and now I will have no car to dring them to school
P:But I got you a litre of milk and a kitkat
M: ....well actually at this point I flipped and screamed at him not to bother coming home and to keep his eye on the door as I would be up collect my car keys and to make a holy show of him as he has done so many times to me.
However ,now I am terrified of him
g in pissed and falling around the place spilling his bile.
It may sound like I am overeacting but there is a back story; I have posted on here a few times over the last year about his depression,abuse of drink drugs and verbal /emotional abuse etc.
My poxy front door has no bolt and I'm afraid to go sleep :(

[booyhoo]

can you put something up against the door? can you ring someone to come round and take him elsewhere when he gets home?

[booyhoo]

did you collect the keys? is his house key on teh keys?

[bethelbeth]

Can you contact his loser mate and tell him that under no circumstances should P come home tonight as you have too much to be getting on with and you can't have some pisshead rolling around while you're trying to get things sorted.

Sorry you have to put up with this. It sucks.

[trappedfool]

no. I have no family in this country; Although he has attacked me physically twice in the ten years we have been together, I am more worried about him being sloppy and falling about trying to cook/ light a cigarette, fall down stairs/wakw dcs up.
God I'm so sick of it.

[trappedfool]

sorry for x posts there. No I couldnt get the keys as no-one around to watch dcs and he is in the next village . His mate is also drunk /stoned so no point talking to him.

[trappedfool]

Dittany, I have been on a long journey emotionally and am currently planning returning to England with dcs. House is in both our names ; social rented.

[booyhoo]

dittany is right, if he comes in and kicks off, ring the police. they will remove him.

longterm, why are you tolerating this? do you want it to stop? do you want him to leave?

[booyhoo]

oops, xpost.

[bethelbeth]

Send him a text to say 'Please don't bother coming home as I have a lot to do and could do without your shit in the morning.'

Then lock the door. If he makes a racket then tell him that you requested that he didn't do this and he should leave. If he doesnt then phone the police if he makes a fuss.

Or if you're feeling particularly vindictive phone the police and make an anonymous call saying that you've witnessed them taking drugs at xxx address and he can spend a night in the cells.
I have no sympathy for twats like him.

[mamas12]

Block yourself in with a chair or something. Both front and back.
If he starts to try and break in call the police.
Call womens aid now to ask for some support in rl.

[trappedfool]

He is claimimg to have misplaced his phone.
It is strange how all the horrible things he has done ,for some reason this is proving to be the straw that broke the camels back.

[booyhoo]

text his friend. tell him he is to stay there for the night. you will call teh police if he turns up at home.

[trappedfool]

have put chair against the door. It is absolutely freezing, lashing rain and wind. Hopefully he just stays the fuck away.

[booyhoo]

are you in nortehrn ireland? i am having the exact same weather. it's really stormy.

[trappedfool]

I would quite like to be able to turn this thread into the story of how I got away. The police would more than likely give him a talking to and send him away. He is great pals with most of the local officers however, but the threat should be enough to keep him away.

[trappedfool]

I am getting the stormy weather alright

[booyhoo]

if you ask them to remove him thay will. regardless of how good friends they are with him tehy have to do their job. if he has been violent in the past you have enough reason to not want him in the house.

[msboogie]

You wouldn't be the first who turned a thread like this into the story of an escape but it would be a great thing nonetheless . You'll have to do it one day, why not now? There's only one way to win with an alkie Irishman and that's to leave him for fucking dust. He won't even bother running after you as he will be too busy going down the boozer.

[trappedfool]

do you speak from experience Ms boogie?

[booyhoo]

there's only one way to win with alkie men (irish part not necessary)

[trappedfool]

Yes ; problem drinkers of many nationalities in all countries of course.
However Some countries have a rather more peculiar relationship with drink IME :o

[trappedfool]

Fuck its so noisy here, the gate is nearly being blown off the hinges and the letterbox is banging :(

[booyhoo]

yep, same here. gate is banging off the wall like billyo. even the vent for teh extractor fan is flapping like mad. i am dreading getting up in th emorning if it's still like this.