Hi everyone
I would like to know how often does the man in your life go out drinking and then stay out because he cannot drive home.
My DH called today from work saying that because of the very hectic and successful month they had that everyone at work will be going out for drinks. He then mentioned that he will be staying at one of the guy?s houses because he obviously cannot drive home.
I would not have had a problem and the only reason why I am posting is to get honest feedback to find out if this is normal. DH and I had massive problems a year ago; we ended up separating and all because of some drug abuse leading to erratic behaviour. He would then always end up calling last minute saying that he is going out straight after work and should be back the next day. But then turn up almost 3pm on his very few days off. He works every weekend, with an alternate Sunday off and it would always happen on the Sunday that he had an off day. It got to the point where I never knew what time he was coming home and we have an almost 3 year old who back then was at an age where she used to look forward to daddy coming home and him not coming. To cut a long story short we went through a lot and we came through smiling and our marriage is stronger than ever.
I am just worried that this might be the start of something and would rather nip it in the bud now then struggle a few months later because I do not think me or him would want to be back to that dark side of what our marriage was before.
I have no problem showing this thread to him in order for him to realise as a married guy with a toddler and another baby on the way it is just not the thing to do.
His colleagues are all young salesman. He is 30 years old and the few that are his age does not have the responsibilities that he's got.
Can someone please tell me if its okay to occasionally stay away from home because you want to drink. I do not drink have never in my life and therefore need to here from people that can tell me that I am being a bit harsh or that I am reasonable in my request to ask him not to stay out.
Many thanks
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How often does your OH stay out at night because he wishes to have a drink
namechanged3 · 02/10/2010 22:43
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