this is a bit long-winded really and for those who make it to the end thank you!
me and dp have been together just over 4 years. we have 2 beautiful children aged 3.4 and 1year. we got pregnant very early in to our relationship. he made it clear he felt i was pressuring him in to being a father if i continued with pregnancy. i decided to go ahead anyway making it clear i had no expectations for him to stand by me but he did and our relationship has continued on somewhat shaky grounds. we moved to the midlands from manchester so i could be near my family and because we didnt want to raise a child where we were. we brought a house and then ds came along.
we have periods of being very happy, and then periods of it being very shit. most of it being me being angryt hat i dont feel he helps me enough with the children. he has always ahd the attitude that because he earns more money his jib is alot harder than mine.
i started my own business with my sister in feb. i work 6 days a week but also do .EVERYTHING for the children. they get up at 6 (if im lucky, its usually earlier) get them washed dressed fed, tkae them to nursery (ten min bus ride, then 20min walk) i then go to work all day, pick them up, go home get them ready for bed. when thats doen i do the washing ironing as well as yet more work for my business. i can count on one hand the amount of times dp has got up with the children in the mroning.
he has now trasnferred back to manchester due toredundancies in the offices down here. he's living back with his parents. his mum cooks his tea for him and all he has to do is go to work. his hours are 10-6 day shift or night shifts. so not exactly crack of dawn get ups. he's onyl been gone 10days, had 2 at home but on thoise 2 days again he stayed in bed whilst i was up getting kids ready for the day then got up just in time to take them to nursery and me to work.
ive tried talking to him but he doesnt want to listen and just shouts. we had a row yesterday before he went back to manchester. i told him dd has said she doent miss him when he goes to work anymore because he shouts at her. his response instead of feeling guilty like i would was, 'well i wont bother coming home then if you and dd think im such a shit dad'.
i dont know what to do or tell him how i feel. i was prescribed anti-d not so long ago but he hates the fact im on them but i need them.
i suppose all im asking for is for someone to say you're not being unreasonable for wanting dp to help out more.
thank you for reading my essay
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A bit of advice needed please dp wont talk to me.
lydiathetattooedlady · 18/07/2010 09:21
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