This belongs to ?Property? subject but it is more about how I feel. I am not sure if anyone will be able to give an advice.
I am currently renting. About 6 months ago I started looking to buy, it was a good time to look actually. The first 2 bed maisonette I saw was not ideal, but affordable and liveable as it is. And, most importantly, I liked it. Would have been a good start to our family. My husband somehow didn?t like it, though, although he could not explain why. For that reason I followed my instincts and put an offer, which got accepted. I started proceeding, ordered the most expensive building survey and called a specialist to check electricity and heating. And then when, I think, everything went wrong: 1) building survey picked up some points, which, I though was bad, but as I later realised, it was normal, just I was inexperienced and scared 2) a specialist told that electricity and heating is old and could need replacement (4-5k) any time 3) husband kept repeating that he does not like the flat 4) I saw a house on the market (not a flat anymore), which was within our very max budget. Then what I did: with shaking voice I pulled out from the flat I was in a process to buy and already spent 1.2k on. Then we viewed the house, liked it, put our max offer? and the next some else appeared and put a higher offer! We could not do anything. We came back to the square one.
We were looking further. I got spare 10k from somewhere and so increased our max budget. During that time, the same flat tried to come back to us ? the seller firstly suggested that they will do some work so that we still buy it. I offered much lower price instead which they disagreed. I had a lot of grief in my mind that I disappointed these good people without a clear reason but the idea that now we increased our budget and can look for a house kept me not to look back. About 2 months ago we saw a new house in the market which we liked, offered and offer got accepted. Not to mentioned that I am very much on the edge of my financial possibilities. We started proceeding. Now the survey and solicitor picks up various things which are not good about the house. Maybe I could negotiate the price down, but I have no energy left. I am just going with the flow. Maybe I will be happy when I move in.. it is a nice house, the only one affordable in my area, at the end of the day it is a house! But inside myself I feel no joy. I should have bought that very first flat. I want to move on, but I just can?t. I know sounds stupid, but maybe it was meant for me and I missed it and it feels that all my life went wrong from that point. I also blame my husband for discouraging me from the flat.
I hope I will be happy in the house?Everyone should be happy buying a house?
Sorry for the long post.
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toja555 · 31/07/2009 14:46
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