A bit of back story: dp and I have been together around 5 years. Very committed but as yet no dcs and not married (partly due to his health problems). He has recently lost his job (due to the health problems) and had a big payout so "we" have decided to buy a house. It would be bought outright with his money (i only have about 20 grand savings) but a lot of my salary would inevitably be spent on decoration, new kitchen etc)
We had a conversation last night for the first time about whose name the house would be in and he says just his. I really don't know what to think about this. On the one hand it is obviously his money and because of his health he is very dependent on this money for his own financial security in the event of a split. On the other hand I will be putting in a lot of my time and money into our home and there would be no way to get that back if we split.
If im honest a lot of the hurt i feel is down to how unromantic it seems. I don't support him financially but in the last few years I feel like I have given him enormous emotional and practical support through his illness. I had a vision that this would be "our" home and now I feel like I'll just be a lodger.
I hope the above made sense. I'd be really grateful if anyone could help give some perspective on this.
Thanks x
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Namechanger98765 · 28/02/2015 07:50
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