Excuse me if I'm being petty about this but never having done footy at school myself, I don't know the ropes.
Our school has a club for some year groups. Ds started going last year (yr2) and enjoyed it, though wasn't particularly good at it.
Some of the kids are quite good but no one is brilliant as they are all just kids - and some are fairly bad!
Anyway he was asked to play in a match last summer, so we turned up early, all set, my parents in tow. There were a couple of latecomers, and rather than start the game with those we had, the coach decided to wait for them and leave ds out on the sidelines, all keyed up and ready to play but apparently the ones that were late were better than him
He was upset and confused. We waited patiently and by half time still no joy though even the younger bro of one of his mates was allowed on. We had no idea what to say to ds.
At some point during the second half, he was finally sent on to play - for approximately seven minutes, then he was substituted again.
I was really upset about it and he was upset too, (I tried to hide it and so did he!) and after that he kind of wasn't interested in playing any more so stopped going to the after school practise.
Anyway, a little while before half term, he was invited to join again by the coach, but I said he was no longer interested, thanks all the same. During half term he decided he'd like to play again so when we went back I asked the coach's wife if it was Ok - she seemed really pleased and said that would be great. She said there's a match on Friday - can you bring him during the day as we need parents to drive them there, so I said that would be fine and arranged to take him and stay the afternoon there.
Today was football practise so he went along, and then after it the coach called to me and said that he isn't wanted at the match on Friday. He wouldn't explain why. I presume it's the same again - ds just isn't that good. But loads of them aren't that good. I don't think he is particularly lacking - it's not like he ruins the game or anything. He's just a bit reticent in going after the ball.
So we went home (I'd already offered one of the other kids a lift via their mum, so will have to renege on that now) and on the way, ds told me that the other kids had told him at lunchtime that they didn't want him in the match, as he would 'let them all down'
I don't think they were saying this by themselves - the wording sounded like an adult had said it and they were copying. But I don't know who.
I just feel so angry on behalf of ds - I tried to make a joke out of it and tell him how good he is at other stuff, but the unfairness of it, leaving out a little kid who shows commitment, turns up on time, and just wants to learn the game, seems really harsh.
Is this normal? I want to tell the coach to stick his 'friendly' match in a few weeks that he graciously might allow ds to play in. But I know they don't really care if we are in it or not.
Sorry I just need to vent. They are 7 FGS. It's hardly the world cup.
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Is this par for the course with junior level football?
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IngridBergmann · 09/03/2011 18:40
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