I have 3 children at primary school (& its attached kindergarten), ages 3, 5 & 6.
I am v affectionate with my children, I believe children of this age need to feel loved, we kiss goodbye etc. I also encourage them to kiss and hug eachother because I want them to be emotionally robust people and I want to foster the sibling relationships! When they were toddlers if they had a spat with a friend I also used to encourage them to give the other child a hug or a kiss when saying sorry, and sometimes they hug some of their friends (their closest buddies) when saying goodbye.
Now the school has told my children that they must not kiss anyone else except for Mummy and Daddy. A number of other parents have also been told that their children must not hug or kiss other children. One mother's very sweet little boy hugged another child to say sorry, just as his mother had taught him - and he was told that it was 'not appropriate'. Another three year old boy was told off for kissing another three year old - they are only three years old ffs!
I'm afraid I REALLY object to school telling my children that they can't kiss or hug their brother or sister in the playground! - AIBU?
I realise that there are some situations that could develop, particularly with older children, but I feel that this approach is just bowing to Compensation Culture at the expense of our children's emotional wellbeing. I think small children SHOULD be allowed to touch/hug eachother. Obviously if it is rough or unwanted then that is a different matter - and then we need to teach them that that is not acceptabe, but that is a valuable lesson in itself . For me, 'banning affection' is not the answer!
What does everyone else think?
And should I do or say something to the school?
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My children (& others) told off for hugging/kissing eachother in Primary School - AIBU ???
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Hotpants · 19/02/2011 12:41
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