My daughter is going off the rails and seems to be on a path of self destruction. I am at my wits end with what to do. I am a mother of 2 daughters, my youngest being 7. Earlier this year I found out that my eldest had been telling lies. She had told all of her friends that her dad didn't buy her any Easter eggs for Easter (which was a lie). I confronted her about it and explained that it was wrong to lie and she said that she didn't know why she did it. Then a while after I found out that she had been bullying children at school. I drove her to the children's houses to apologise. It seemed to work for a while. I then found out she was doing it again (to a poor girl who doesn't have the best life anyway). This is something I absolutely will not tolerate so as a shock tactic I took her to the police station so they could explain to her that with actions comes consequences. She left the police station in tears. For about 3 months she was back to the amazing daughter that I knew I had the whole time. Then I had the shock of the century. I found out that her and a friend had been stealing from a local shop. I found out when I found the goods in her bedroom. I confronted her and her friend and told them how disappointed I was. I told the other girls mother and said I wanted them to take everything back and apologise. The mother refused as it was from the shop she works in and was embarrassed. I wasn't about to let my daughter take the blame by herself so I punished her by grounding her and taking away her phone and increased her chores. She was told she wasn't allowed in any shops unless I was with her. She seemed to understand what she had done was wrong. Then this Friday just past I had a phone call. It was from a man who explained that he had just caught her and the same friend in his shop stealing again. He said he checked back over his cctv and over the last 2 weeks they had stole around £20 worth of stock each. I obviously told him I was very sorry, paid the money he was owed and brought her home where I have now told her she isn't to associate with this girl as they cannot be trusted. I also messaged the girls mum and told her that I would be contacting the police myself. She came to my door and told me I had no right. I explained that I had every right and I was doing my best as her mother to teach my daughter right from wrong and that both of them were to blame so they should both be punished. I am waiting for the police to call me back to come out and speak to her. This past few days she is just acting like nothing has happened and is as mouthy and demanding as ever. She is vile to my youngest daughter (who is very sweet natured and kind, they are polar opposites). She shouts when something doesn't go her way, she cries at the drop of a hat. I am at my wits end. The only thing that seems to effect her is the threat of moving out of our local area and changing her schools to remove her from the situation as punishment don't seem to be working. It seems drastic but if that's what it takes for her to know I mean business then I will do it. I just wondered if anyone has any ideas or anything with dealing with a child that seems to set on ruining her own life??? She's only 11, I know that but people that tell me 'kids will be kids'...I was a kid once, I didn't bully people or steal!! I'm just so low right now and seriously disappointed ????
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jude3184 · 23/09/2015 11:10
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