Yup, tonight I'm meeting friends who have been unable to conceive since their first child was born 6 years ago. It causes them enormous distress. The thing is that tonight dh and I are also telling them that I'm pregnant with our first, and possibly what will be our only, nipper.
Now, I've suffered years of infertility myself (up until I found this particular bun in my oven)so I know not to go in spilling over with excitement. I want them to know that we understand that while this may be good news for us it may make them want to smash the room up (I remember that feeling only too well when friends used to tell me their 'good news'). But I don't want to make assumptions about how they are feeling or patronise them either. They could be chuffed for all we know.
I suspect that we'll quietly tell them at the start of the evening (it's kind of daft to keep something this big to yourself until we're saying our goodbyes), not make a fuss and then only talk about it if they make the right noises. We just sooo want to do this right not least because we've put up with enormous insensitivity from fecund folk in the past.
How does that sound to you? Please let me know, chuck me a nugget, anything that you think will help.
Ta muchly
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How should we tell our infertile friend that I'm pregnant?
Scampynoodle · 26/07/2007 14:21
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