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Anybody else just found out they are PG with their first after TTC 12 months plus?!?

(187 Posts)
Bunnygirlie Fri 31-Jan-14 11:23:22

Hiya, I had a positive test last weekend and looking for some ladies in the same situation to share symptoms and worries with.

Bunnygirlie Sun 02-Feb-14 11:22:11

Bump

Bunnygirlie Sun 02-Feb-14 12:14:35

Not just for first babies, any stress will do smile

PervyMuskrat Sun 02-Feb-14 14:05:09

I finally got pregnant after nearly 2 years and had a healthy DS after a slightly troublesome pregnancy.

Now pregnant with DC2 after almost a year and hoping for a smoother ride this time (although already had one small bleed)

Congratulations! I remember being in shock for the first trimester and then unable to believe it was real until I had the first scan. Fortunately DS was always a wiggler and I felt him move fairly early so I found that really reassuring

time2deal Sun 02-Feb-14 14:41:56

Hi Bunny - good idea for a thread!! How are you feeling?

I'm trying to stay calm today, but just can't really believe it's true. Also still getting random sharp pains in and around my... umm.. fanjo I think its called on here. Freaks me out every time.

Will be good to speak to the clinic (and my oncologist) on Monday to find out what the next steps are.

Hatteras Sun 02-Feb-14 15:03:19

...tiptoes in, still not quite believing she's in the right place.

Hi bunny great idea for a thread. Hi time, so great to see you here too. How are you both doing? Will be back to write more later when I have more time. I'm actually finding this early part even worse than the 2ww, which feels stupid!

time2deal Sun 02-Feb-14 15:12:23

hat, bunny is this your first BFP? Your first IVF?

First BFP ever for me, technically the third IVF, but the first that has made it to ET.

Bunnygirlie Sun 02-Feb-14 17:00:23

Hi ladies, glad you made it. I just thought it would be nice to have somewhere to share worries and hand hold. Didn't wanna talk about this on the ivf thread with the BFNs and the other stress.

Congrats pervy what are your stats?

Me, 33, been off the pill since Feb 2012, first ivf ICSI Jan 2014, first ever BFP 25/01.

Feeling scared, nervous, constantly on knicker watch, worried about no symptoms other than tiredness and weird twinges when I get off sofa or bed. Gonna be a long week till 6 week scan next next Monday!

time yep my first ivf and first BFP, amazing really, still seems unreal!

PervyMuskrat Sun 02-Feb-14 19:50:23

I'm still scared and nervous and I'm just over 13 weeks! The dating scan and screening tests are happening this week so I'm hoping to feel better after that. I had a private scan at 7 weeks for reassurance and it was lovely to see a little heartbeat

The nausea has been pretty horrible since about 6 weeks though so I'm also hoping that eases off soon. We've told some people a bit earlier this time around as it was Christmas and there are only so many excuses you can use for not drinking!

Hope the week goes fast and the 6 week scan goes well!

And remember, it's never too early to start doing your pelvic floor exercises grin

time2deal Sun 02-Feb-14 19:52:24

bunny I know what you mean about the weird twinges when I get up. I read somewhere that the ligaments between your upper legs and torso loosen quite early, so I think the odd pain is like that.

Has anyone done another test? I meant to do it this morning, to reassure myself, but had to rush as DH was in the shower so no chance. I'm paranoid now that the BFP is gone!

PervyMuskrat Sun 02-Feb-14 19:57:32

time to deal I did about, ooh, 3 in the first week and then a digital one until 4 weeks blush

PervyMuskrat Sun 02-Feb-14 19:58:02

Should say a digital one each week until 4 weeks!

time2deal Sun 02-Feb-14 20:25:47

Good to know its not just me! I will commence regular testing. smile I bought a few cheapies from tesco today. I'll get another digi and test in a couple of weeks to get the 5+ sign hopefully.

I'm trying to enjoy this stage a little bit. I know it's really early, and I am constantly analysing/worying about each twinge, but after all this time its just wonderful to at least be experiencing something different. I am keen to speak to the various doctors tomorrow to find out the next steps.

Bunnygirlie Sun 02-Feb-14 22:34:10

Glad I'm not the only one with weird twinges!

I did two tests on OTD, a FC one and a Sainsburys one and then I did an Internet cheapy Sunday Tuesday Thursday and Saturday grin

Hatteras Sun 02-Feb-14 23:16:46

Pervy it's good and reassuring to hear from someone ahead of us!

time this is my 2nd BFP, 2nd IVF. I'm now 39. We started trying for a baby at the end of 2011, I got pregnant in 2012 after a few courses of clomid (which looking back, I don't think we needed rather it was just something they gave us before we moved onto the big guns). Sadly we had a scan at 7/8 weeks that showed an empty sac. Until then I had absolutely no signs that anything was wrong, I had really bad morning sickness so it was a shock to have that empty scan. Dr said it was most probably a blighted ovum, everything looked well implanted, just 'one of those things'. All our tests, mine and DH's came back fine so we were put in the 'unexplained' category and had our first round of IVF in October 2013. We got 11 eggs, but only 1 fertilized and it wasn't a great one. We were pretty much told at the time that this ET was unlikely to work (it didn't) but we went ahead anyway and were already planning round 2, with ICSI. The round with ICSI (January 2014) seemed to work really well for us, we had 2 blastos transferred and 5 blastos to freeze (actually I need to check how many of these did successfully freeze).

So, got my BFP a few days and it's been very weird since. Absolutely over the moon and thrilled but equally terrified! Trying to be positive and think there is nothing we can do apart from just see what happens. I hadn't really thought how this would all feel, I was so focused on just reaching the BFP stage and now I am here there seem to be a whole load of new worries! My clinic takes blood tests over the first week approximately / until HCG levels reach about 1000 so I have to go on Tuesday for another blood test to see where things are with that. If all ok then, then I guess the next thing will be an early scan, which I think is at 6 weeks ish? Anyone else get multiple blood tests? I think this seems to vary a lot with different places.

Symptom wise, all over the place and nothing really concrete. The day before and after my BFP I felt really nauseous but that has died down and I just get the odd gentle wave every now and again. Boobs feel normal. I have loads of twinges, some feel like AF cramps, some feel totally different. I'm definitely peeing more, generally feel bloated/gassy (nice!) and tired but that could be the progesterone or just feeling 'off'.

I think it is normal to feel nervous at this stage, especially if it has been a difficult/long road to get to this point. So, sending out positive vibes for all of us. Thanks bunny for starting this up, I didn't feel it was right to stay on the IVF thread and talk about being stressed after getting a BFP. Wasn't sure which thread I belong to - IVF worriers/pregnant after miscarriage/pregnant after TTC more than a year' - I fit all those categories!!

Ok, so deep breath, today we are all pregnant! Hope everyone had a good weekend.

Hatteras Sun 02-Feb-14 23:21:38

oh and as for testing, I don't have any more HPTs at home and am not going to get any more (at least I don't think so). I did one test on the day of my BFP, then one the day after and got myself in a right state comparing them because the 2nd BFP didn't look any darker than the first and in certain lights 'OMG did it even look half a shade lighter' etc.

It's not that I have nerves of steel not testing, rather that not testing again at the moment is one less thing for me to be worried about!

Expectingtwins1975 Mon 03-Feb-14 10:03:34

Hi bunny .... I'm currently 18+3 with twins. It's my first pregnancy - following on from my first ivf try too. I ttc naturally for about 6-7 years or so before deciding to go the ivf route. (I'm 38 now). I still can't believe it worked first time - really wasn't expecting it to - and to end up with twins! Was a complete nervous wreck for the first twelve weeks or so (actually still a bit of a nervous wreck now).

MissMagpie Mon 03-Feb-14 12:46:18

Hi everyone.
I have had my first BFP after ttc for 12 months. I am 31 and my DH and I had just started the first infertility tests. I was waiting for day 2 for a blood test but it didn't come and the lovely people on this board encouraged me to do a HP test which was positive!

I have done 2 Clear Blue digital conception indicators and both were +ve but the wait to see my Dr (appt on Weds) has been agonising! I reckon I am 6 or 7 weeks but don't feel massively different which is somewhat disconcerting!

The symptoms I have had are bloating, swollen breasts, tiredness and that's about it. Potentially a bit of nausea is starting today.... I have also had quite a few pains around the general womb/ovary area. Some feel like AF others are a bit sharper but always go away as soon as they come. It doesn't feel real yet and that is the hardest part!

Bunnygirlie Mon 03-Feb-14 19:25:12

hat I know what you mean, being happy but scared at the same time. I expect it's worrying for anybody pg but I think those that struggle to get pg also struggle to get excited because it's been so tough to get here.
No blood tests at my FC, I get a scan next week which will be 4 weeks after embryo transfer. No more progesterone for me either once test done.

No worries for starting thread

Wow expecting twins how scary and exciting smile

Hi miss welcome to the gang. Lack of symptoms is freaking me out too!

time2deal Mon 03-Feb-14 19:54:24

I'm nervous too, but also very excited. My biggest worry is finding just a sack and no baby at eight weeks. I have a little feeling that my embie wasn't too quality (it was the only one of five they thought was ok). But I've got to have faith. I'm all that little blighter has to rely on, so I have to believe in him/her. smile

Scan is booked for 27th. No other follow up or tests until then. Feels like such a long time!!

Bunnygirlie Mon 03-Feb-14 22:04:52

Yep we must be positive time, I rub my tum and whisper grow grow every night before bed.

So will that be your 8 week scan on 27th?

Hatteras Mon 03-Feb-14 22:36:04

expecting twins is so exciting, if not slightly daunting at the same time! If you don't mind me asking, how many embryos did you have put back?

bunny, not too long to the scan, that will be 6 weeks? I am hoping I will find out tomorrow when my scan is. time, you have an 8 week scan then?

Positive thoughts and faith are the ways to go right now. I keep imagining this baby, talking to it and allowing myself to believe that this will all be ok. But still, every now and again I find myself starting to look at cute baby stuff online then think 'no stop it, too soon'

I'm not sleeping brilliantly at the moment. I don't think it is due to nerves, more likely because I am up 2-3 times to pee, but unless I am imagining it, any symptoms I get feel worse at night.

time2deal Tue 04-Feb-14 09:26:39

It will be around the 8 week mark. I'm an ex-cervical cancer patient, so I'm waiting to hear from my oncologist today to find out if he wants to see me too. Most of my cervix has been removed, so I will need a stitch (a cerclage) put in pretty soon I suspect, although they may wait to ensure it's viable before doing that.
I've made an appointment for the GP next week, as I also need to get more drugs, so will find out more then.

I have to go to the dentist next week actually. I've lost a crown (over Christmas) and so will need some proper drilling to get it ready for a new one. It's an NHS dentist, so it will be free since I'm pregnant (which is good) but hopefully they can still use decent pain relief!

Hatteras Tue 04-Feb-14 16:45:09

time, I remember now from the IVF thread about you being an ex-cervical cancer patient. This must be feel especially precious for you, hope everything goes ok with any meds you need to take. And yes, make the most of free NHS dental treatment!

Expectingtwins1975 Tue 04-Feb-14 17:43:40

Hi hatteras - I had 2 embryos put back. I only had 2 embryos that fertilised so the clinic figured they might as well use both of them.

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