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November 2012 - the birthplosion (thanks Peaky)

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StuntNun Tue 13-Nov-12 09:56:55
horseylady Wed 14-Nov-12 20:32:27

No vq I think you are totally right!!

The more people I talk too, the angrier I feel that women are not supported enough when trying to establish bf.

No im not yet over the fact that I am unable to bf my little one!! I think with more time/support/understanding we'd have maybe got it. Maybe not but I think spending 5 minutes every few hours grabbing my boob and forcing a screaming babies very bruised head onto the nipple is not going to encourage positive feelings with either party. Yes he struggles sucking, yes my nipples may well be a bit flat. We still deserved better treatment than we got. I should have fought more than I did. I didn't have the energy at the time sad

Still were both alive and in all fairness the way he chews the bottle I'd feel sorry for my nipples!! He does not suck properly!!

Yay I can finally join you. Baby Cassius was born this morning at 11.45 and weighed 7lbs 7. He is beautiful but my labour was horrific. Lasted 55 hours from first contractions, lots of drama along the way including his heart rate dropping and threatened CS. Had him vaginally in the end and pushed him out in 13 mins.

eliza there is a lady opposite me who is trying to breastfeed. He was only born at 5.30pm and the midwife is already saying if he doesn't start taking it soon then she should try formula. Ridiculous.

Can't believe I now have sole responsibility of this tiny little baby. Worried in case he wakes in the night and I can't settle him.

Elizadoesdolittle Wed 14-Nov-12 21:11:09

Yay apple welcome to the thread and huge congratulations to you on the birth of Cassius. Sorry to hear you had a rough time of it. I bet those newborn snuggles make every second worth it though.

Managed to get a decent bit of milk into Ella. I hope she doesn't sick it all up now!

kirrinIsland Wed 14-Nov-12 21:25:34

Hi everyone smile

Nadia was born on Monday - 7lb11oz - very quick, I was only on the labour ward for 5 minutes before she arrived, probably cut it a bit fine!

Not much sleep happening, but feeding (or sucking, at least) feels almost constant - really quite sore now!

PetiteRaleuse Wed 14-Nov-12 21:45:33

Congratulations to the new arrivals.

Taking LO to the paediatrician tomorrow for her first formal post hospital check up. When she was checking her last week when I had them in for her cold she picked up a heart murmer, so we'll be discussing that in more detail tomorrow and she'll get me an appointment for an ECG if it is still there.

Other than that my wound has stopped its weepy stitch which is a relief.

LO is feeding a lot today but spitting up a lot too. If I don't get her to burp at least three times after each ounce or so she chucks up quite a bit.

Now all the grandparents have gone and DH is back at work today was my first day on my own with both DDs all day. DD1 doing quite well but still having jealous tantrums when she is hungry or tired. She goes to creche 4 mornings a week but today was her home day. Am a wreck now, but have to remember that am still recovering from c section.

Nights are going well. LO has a last feed at 11ish then goes down for the night apart from 1 half hour feed between 3 and 4. Can't complain. Long may it last.

Hello kirrin great to have you over here, congratulations!

Not using nipple cream didnt even expect to need it! It really makes me cry out and toes curl when she latches on. Midwife saw her feeding today though and said latch looks perfect?!

PetiteRaleuse Wed 14-Nov-12 22:02:25

I was advised to rub the nipples with a few drops of breastmilk before and after each feed, then add some Lansinoh after that post feed.

NervousAt20 Wed 14-Nov-12 22:08:16

Congratulations apple sorry to hear you had a tramatic time x

Congratulations kirrin

It's nice that the thread is filling up

My DD has been on and off the boob since 7, when she comes off she's crying within 5 min sad it's going to be a long night and I'm completely shattered! I'm normally in bed by 8

Chunkychicken Wed 14-Nov-12 22:22:11

DH that was exactly how I felt with my DD. It would make me wince & my toes curl in agony. Everyone said my latch was fine - I would search sites etc for pictures & compare. The only thing that helped was Multi-Mam nipple balm & time. It was almost that my nips had to get de-sensitised & my DD had to get a bigger mouth!! It hurts a tad with DS, but nowhere near as bad & only for a second or 2, and more is only if he isn't quite on right. I can't say why its different, as the latch looks the same to me!!!

MadamGazelleIsMyMum Wed 14-Nov-12 23:23:27

Congrats kirrin and apple!

A recovering really well from the CS, no oozing and dressing has been off since day 3. Am lucky, haven't done anything to make this so. Can almost forget that am in recovery from surgery really.

DS's cold makes his breathing horrible to listen to, although it doesn't seem to bother him, and being more upright in his chair seems to help - he just slept from 8pm til now. But we're now in cluster time...

MadamGazelleIsMyMum Wed 14-Nov-12 23:26:04

Also, question re times of (non-cluster) feeds - do they fairly rapidly get very efficient? DS now seems very content and falling asleep for several hours after just a few minutes - maybe 10-15 - of one boob. First few days he stayed on both for hours.

Iheartpasties Thu 15-Nov-12 01:15:43

marking my place

blonderthanred Thu 15-Nov-12 01:58:43

Horrid few hrs, DS started cluster feeding at 8 which I was pleased about as it was his 'old' pattern but then started struggling to find his latch, thrashing about, burrowing, really desperate arching of back etc. Tried winding and walking about to calm him but he was quite hysterical which he rarely is with me. Started worrying he was actually in pain and had injured himself. Or that he would hurt himself from all the flinging about.

Probably just a bit of trapped wind but it was really distressing. Plus I kept falling asleep and waking up in a panic that I had suffocated him. Seems like it would be such an easy thing to do, I am permanently terrified about it.

NervousAt20 Thu 15-Nov-12 02:18:49

madam my DD (still very werid to say that grin) feeds for about 10 min each feed an then that's every 2 hours / 2 1/2 hours and once she's done she's done I can't get her to take more. Someone told me that as she's gaining weight so well, having plent of wet and sorry nappies then not to worry

Up for the first feed f the night, I thought with all cluster feeding we might go longer but tbh I'm just glad she settled last night and hoping Indian have any problems now m

GTbaby Thu 15-Nov-12 05:50:57

I feel like a zombie. So tiered. LO colic is awful. He fed at 1 n 5. Which otherwise would be great. But in between he was so fussy I couldn't sleep properly. Every time I lay down he would start screaming.

Really hope he is asleep for a few hours now. I'm emotional as it is. And DH has pissed me off. He took day off yesterday but didn't tell me as I'm at my mums. Only found out at end of day. N I think it's selfish as he should have saved the day for when WE need it not when HE wants it.
N I bet he hasn't sorted the nursery out.

N I banged my head last night. Sat in bed feeding LO, my head swung back as I fell asleep n hit the wall. Hurts

Not a good day so far. sad

Izzybuzzybuzzybees Thu 15-Nov-12 06:47:58

Sorry to hear that you are having a bad night gt

I hate the night feeds. I'm on meds to prevent me becoming ill and they make me sleepy. Add that to sleep deprivation and its no fun.

My nipples both have almost wee holes on them which is a killer. Not sure what to do about it as I've tried lansinoh and breast milk. They don't seem to heal and feeds are painful due to them sad

DS is feeding just now on my least sore and I'm hoping to express my right! Anyone any tips for when to express etc

chunky glad to hear they got better though, hopefully it'll just take some time and my nipples need to get a bit more hardy!
I do remember them hurting at first with ds too.

Well Q had a bottle of EBM last night while I put ds to bed, she then fed twice more before I went to sleep around 10ish and she slept til 3! I felt quite refreshed. I'm even giving dh a lay in for an hour while I feed her then ill go back to bed when he's up for a bit.

Sophiathesnowfairy Thu 15-Nov-12 06:50:41

Congrats kirrin and apple

This thread is now beginning to move as quickly as the other, I can't keep up.

Better night last night DS went down between feeds so I got.....drum roll.......5hours sleep as DH did the 3am feed the star.

Xx

ValiumQueen Thu 15-Nov-12 08:16:56

DD1 is singing (I use the term loosely) into a mike, and DS has covered his ears grin

horseylady Thu 15-Nov-12 08:33:37

Congrats apple and kirrin!!

Crap night here. Everytime i put him down on his back he screamed. When he did eventually sleep it was only for an hour and he woke himself up being snotty. Or with belly ache. Or both sad I was going to the church baby group this morning but am not so sure now sad Poor mite. I just want to make him better sad

Dh slept in the spare room again sad

NervousAt20 Thu 15-Nov-12 08:55:47

A bad night here too, seems like tree was quite a few last night sad

Does anyone know if babies have a growth spurt around 4 weeks? The last 2 nights LO has been cluster feeding alot, really unsettled at night, she can be latches on for a minute or two then pulls off but wants it straight back then will fuss confused don't know if its a growth spurt or if the quality of my milk is changing and she needs to feed more often?

Brockle Thu 15-Nov-12 09:36:33

Just marking my place so I can lurk smile

PetiteRaleuse Thu 15-Nov-12 09:37:10

4week check up went well. LO has put on 500g since her birth weight and more than 700g or so since day 3 by which time she had lost her 10%. Has also grown 3 cm so is right on the 50th centile. She hadn't been weighed since day 3 so I was starting to get curious. Se's still smaller than DD1 was at birth but DD1 is on the 97 th centile.

I have to phone a cardiologist for an appointment for an ECG to look more closely at the heart murmer though.. Paed not too worried as there are no symptoms of any other related problem but can't tell with the stethoscope if there is a problem or if it is benign.

Nervous LO is also eating a lot more than usual at the moment but the paed said it's around about now that a typical ff baby of average weight goes from 90ml to 120ml feeds. I was asking her this morning why dd was suddenly eating more. She didn't say the was a growth spurt or not, but did say it's normal for their appetite to increase about now.

Sophiathesnowfairy Thu 15-Nov-12 09:38:47

horsey I have trouble putting him down on his back particularly after the night time feeds. It took me an hour to wind him last night and get him to stop crying every time I put him down. I have gone against all the advice and been swaddling him the last cople of nights as it is the only way he will settle. Maybe try some Infacol.

Sorry you feel sad it might make you feel a bit better to go to the baby group and speak to other mums.

PetiteRaleuse Thu 15-Nov-12 10:17:57

900g almost, not 700g

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