ds is 3. Pushes the boundaries a little, but is generally a very good boy and doesn't need much persuasion to be good.
This evening he has been hard work. He is allowed to play on my laptop while i cook dinner, but knows he has to turn it off when food is ready. Dp came in to sort the laptop out and ds kicked him when he realised he really did have to turn it off. Apology was requested and given. Then dp took a flag off the sofa and started to fold it ready to take up to ds room, ds started pulling at it to which dp asked him to let go and explained what he was doing. Ds refused to let go and became quite aggressive so he was given a warning that the flag would go in the kitchen bin. He cried and demanded it back so we agreed if he ate his dinner with no messing about he could have it back. He was ok for a while but then started getting stroppy again.....he went to throw a floor cushion and was told that if he did throw it the flag would go in the outside bin, and that once it was there then he didn't get it back. He threw the cushion (after some thought) and so flag is in the outside bin.
Now i have a very remorseful child.....who is heartbroken and sobbing. I'm finding it very hard indeed to deal with seeing him so upset. I have to put him to bed soon and don't fancy my chances of it being easy tonight as he is repeatedly asking for his flag back with promises of 'i won't throw the cushion ever again' and 'i'm sorry, i will be a good boy'........
I can't go and get the flag out of the bin.....i told him once it went in there that was it. But how do i move forward from this? He has just said to me......'but i've said two sorrys now, please mummy can i have it back?'
what do i do......i don't want my little boy to be upset but i also don't want to make a rod for my own back?
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queenrollo · 01/03/2009 18:33
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