Last night DS1 (age 4) was up in the night. He had lost his bedtime toy and was having a full tantrum and wouldn't be consoled with another toy. DH was dealing with him and as he became louder and louder took him into the bathroom so he didn't wake up DS2.
He yelled and screamed for a while until DH eventually got him a drink, settled him into bed and he went to sleep.
This morning I noticed he had 3 marks on his arm (weren't there yesterday) and asked how he got them. He told me he banged his arm in the park when out walking with daddy. Also told me he didn't want to show daddy . Anyway, I told DH who was a bit shocked and asked to have a look. He said to DS1 'did daddy do that last night?' and DS1 said 'yes' really quietly
DH was mortified - he left the room and cried. I asked him if he had been rough in the night and he said he had grabbed him hard when he was being uncontrollable but didn't realise he had been so rough.
So my dilemma is this. He has hurt our child enough to leave a mark. That is unforgivable. Or is it?
DH is genuinly sorry, but I can't help feeling that all perpetrators of domestic abuse are 'genuinly sorry' until it happens again.
He is otherwise a fantastic father. But am I just being naive? Do all wives say this about a husband who has hurt them/their child?
I honestly don't know what to think or do . Any advice welcome.
For the record, I am not a troll but have namechanged because, for some reason I feel deeply ashamed of my husbands behaviour.
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DH has been rough with DS. Am in shock.
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feelingsick · 01/08/2007 10:39
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