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If your childbearing years are over do you look at your brood and think.......

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LadyTophamHatt · 21/05/2007 21:14

"blardy hell....I ever thought I'd have this many"


becasue I do.

Never in 70 biliion zillion years did I ever think I;d have 4 children.
I still acn't believe it now TBH and DS4 is 4months old.

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mistressmiggins · 21/05/2007 21:15

I wish I had more - I have 2 plus step(ish) DD but if money was no object, I would have another one.

I am envious of big families

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jalopy · 21/05/2007 21:17

I often think...blimey, where have you lot come from?

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TinyGang · 21/05/2007 21:19

Lol Yes!

I started late and suddely I was surrounded by children. How did that happen? I don't even remember feeling broody and knew nothing about babies.

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dinosaur · 21/05/2007 21:20

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Sparkler1 · 21/05/2007 21:20

"What did I do with all my spare time before you were born?"

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fizzledizzle · 21/05/2007 21:21

often . i never wanted kids but somehow ended up with two strapping boys. how did that happen

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Bubble99 · 21/05/2007 21:21

Yes! LTH, you've read my mind.

I was thinking this at the weekend.

'Bloody hell! I've got four children.

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minniemouse1 · 21/05/2007 21:22

I do it all the time i only ever wanted 2 children and i wanted to wait untill i was in my early 30's. I have 3 and am 25, like mistressmiggins if money was no object i would have more, i love big families.

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fizzledizzle · 21/05/2007 21:22

dinosaur pmsl i might adopt that as my family motto

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LadyTophamHatt · 21/05/2007 21:27

I do that alot Bubble.

I look at them and think "OMG...I really made all of you...all 4......Jeeeez...4...OMG...I've got 4 kids....sodding hell how did that happen"

I remeber when Dh came to pick us up from hosital with the big DS's. DS4 was lying on the bed and the big ones were all crowding aroud him trying to get as close as possible without squashing him and I felt sooooo unbelievabley proud, I rememebr thinking "God, I did that".
It real was a lovely moment seeing them all together for the 1st time.

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mistressmiggins · 21/05/2007 21:28

going off at a tangent, those of you with more than 2 children, how do you afford it?

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Dottydot · 21/05/2007 21:28

Blardy hell - you lot are making me all broody now - just when I was SURE I didn't want any more!

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thedogsbollox · 21/05/2007 21:29

No, the opposite!

I always wanted 4 and only have 2, so I always think of those babies I didn;t have, somewhat wistfully

Still, a life lived without regrets is not a life lived at all!

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Bubble99 · 21/05/2007 21:34

We don't afford it MM. Just take what most people give to 2 and stretch it. and, in true Marge Simpson stylee, 'Add a lot of love' and it goes further.'

Ye gods Did I really just type that?

I think the main thing you need to afford with more than two is time. And that can be difficult.

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LadyTophamHatt · 22/05/2007 09:55

MM, Dh works every hour he can and we never go out and rarely buy new stuff fo rus.

We aren't on the bread line but luxuries are a long way off.

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purplemonkeydishwasher · 22/05/2007 09:57

LTH - you're only 33. still time for more!!!

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DumbledoresGirl · 22/05/2007 09:59

No. I look at my brood (on their good days obviously!) and think "I wish I had had the money and nerve to go for 2 more".

In another life, I would have had 6 which was my teenage fantasy.

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eidsvold · 22/05/2007 09:59

i always wanted four but have stopped at 3 - perhaps if dh and I had met earlier and I started younger we might have had no4. There is still time but I am happy with my 3 dds.

The other day dh said to me - did you think this time 6 years ago you would be sitting here back in Aus married with three dds. Nope - nt on your life - did not think that is the path my life was taking. Now I adore them and can't imagine life without them.

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DumbledoresGirl · 22/05/2007 10:04

I agree with Bubble re the affording it bit. I am conscious on a daily basis that we struggle financially and that if we only had 2 we would be like most normal people around us: ie coping ok. You just make economies with 4 children that I am sure most people with 2 don't have to do.

And the hardest thing to afford is the time they need. Though (and this is for those of you who have four but one is still a baby) I have found that as they get older, there are less moments of extreme stress when I am struggling to give them all the time they need. But mine are aged between 4 and nearly 11. Maybe the time thing becomes more of an issue again when they are teenagers?

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Loshad · 22/05/2007 10:52

they seem to keep on needing time even as teenagers dumblesdoresgirl, just in different ways. I adore my 4 and ma immensely proud of them, but yes occasionally look at them, and think whoa, how did that happen - rampant feminist now sahm to 4 boys

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LadyTophamHatt · 23/05/2007 08:00

purplemonkey...I'm ignoring your post!

There won't be any more Tophamhatt children.... but too

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ellieandhattie · 23/05/2007 08:19

I only have 2 and we always said just 2 but god I am broody and in an ideal world would love 4 but we cant afford to move without me working more than 2 days a week and I dont want to do that. But I look at them asleep at night and always think I made them and carried them and think they are the most gorgeous scrummy things in the world (remind me to look at this thread later on when dd1 tantrumming and dd2 crying )

However, if we ever come into money/left a house would def have at least one more (eeek a 3rd dd may cause dh to go insane )

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suedonim · 23/05/2007 17:45

When I was young I veered between not wanting any children and wanting six plus two labradors. I've ended up with four dc and a Cavalier King Charles Spaniel.

After I'd had my second baby I honestly felt that that would be it for me, the responsibility, too expensive, virtually everyone I knew had just the two, my siblings each had two dc and so on. I can't recall what made us decide a third baby would be nice but it felt really daring and bucking the trend, lol! After the initial shock of having a girl it seemed just right that we now had three children.

No4 was a bit of a surprise and I felt that having four children crossed a boundary for me, into the realms of large family-dom. But I wouldn't swap it for a moment.

Because dd2 is the youngest by far we're not often all together (in April not one of the six of us was even in the UK, let alone together!!) but when we do manage to all gather in one place I will admit to having a glow of pride at my brood, tinged with amazement that they're all mine. In some ways there was less pressure with No4, in that she has grown up siblings, one of whom is her guardian, and it's good having that safety net.

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motherinferior · 23/05/2007 17:52

I slightly wish I'd had four. But having only managed to snag a bloke at the advanced age of 37 and not being very good at small babies kind of put the kibosh on that.

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NuttyMuffins · 23/05/2007 18:01

I always wanted 4 and still do, but it's not likely to happen so i'll just have to get used to it.

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