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Anyone have a DH 45yrs or older when having another baby?

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OutragedfromTunbridgeWells · 09/05/2007 16:05

I want a third. DH says he feels too old. He doesn't seem old at the moment but keeps going on about how old he'll be when the child is 20 etc.

Says he'll be dead by the time it's 25. he's a cheery sort.

Do you reckon this is too old? Anyone else have a DH this old when ttc?

I'm 37 BTW.

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badelaide · 09/05/2007 16:06

Oh yes, dh was 46, keeps you young tell 'im.

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badelaide · 09/05/2007 16:07

That was our 3rd. And actually we are both working a bit harder at being healthy so we can be around a long time for them, that can only be a good thing.

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Mum2FunkyDude · 09/05/2007 16:08

dh was 45.5 when we had ds. He is enjoying it, although some friends joked about his aged and said that one day when ds goes to a rugby game his friends will say "Oh I see your grandad came to visit". It didn't put dh off.

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OutragedfromTunbridgeWells · 09/05/2007 16:08

46 when baby was born? That's how old my DH would be.

Did you have to persuade yours? What number baby was it?

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foxinsocks · 09/05/2007 16:08

I think only you and he can decide that tbh. I know some pretty spritely 50 yr olds and some really knackered 40 yr olds .

My dh will be 44 this year and we both feel we don't want any more (well, we have done for a while) but each to their own!

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Merlin · 09/05/2007 16:10

Well my Dh is 6 yrs younger than me, but I was 43 when I had DS2 and am coping Ok so tell him not to be such an old fudy duddy!

Seriously, though guess if he is not happy about it than not much you can do. .

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nearlythere · 09/05/2007 16:11

i know the feeling- dh is older than me and he said he was too old before we had dd, i'd love another in a year or two but i know he will say he's far too old etc again.
But we got through it once, so i'm sure we will get through it again.

'mature' parents get treated much better by doctors/health visitors etc imvho than young mothers (according to dh- the health visitors tend to chat to him rather than lecture!)

there is the downside- 'ahh, a proud grandad!' fgs he's only 47!! Dh is actually quite proud of his ability to still impregnate! sad really!

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badelaide · 09/05/2007 16:11

It took much persuasion, but of course he's chuffed to bits now.

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FrayedKnot · 09/05/2007 16:20

DH was 44 when we had DS. No, in fact he was 44 10 days after DS was born. Near enough!

DS is DH' 3rd child, with a 16 yr age gap!

He did have concerns, but I persuaded him it was not a problem.

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Trinityrhino · 09/05/2007 16:21

dh is 46 and we have just had our third (gecko) who is now 3 months

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KatieandBB · 09/05/2007 16:22

my dh will be 43 when our baby is born in August (my first his second) I am 29.

Baby was a BIG suprise, dh had convinced himself he was over the hill and I have polycystic ovaries, now thinks he is a superstud with much younger wife to boot!

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rabbleraiser · 09/05/2007 16:24

My dp was 45 when my ds was born. He has older children from his previous marriage - there's a 12 year age gap between the youngest and a 21 year gap between the eldest.

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QueenofBleach · 09/05/2007 16:28

Dh will be 45 when we try for another baby next year, my brother had his last at 45.

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KatieandBB · 09/05/2007 16:29

and we had been married only three months when I discovered I was pregnant AND we were due to attend a hospital appointment about my PCOS and possible IVF the day after I found out.

thus proving there is hope, despite knackered old husbands and dodgy ovaries

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evenhope · 09/05/2007 16:32

We had a baby 8 weeks ago. I am 43 (44 at the end of this month) and DH turned 46 last month

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KatieandBB · 09/05/2007 16:36

congrat evenhope :0

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OutragedfromTunbridgeWells · 09/05/2007 16:46

How lovely Evenhope!!! Congratualtions.

Off to tell my DH about you

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mrsmalumbas · 09/05/2007 16:48

A friend of ours became a father at 54 and he's a lovely dad.

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WriggleJiggle · 09/05/2007 19:02

dh will be 44 when d? makes an appearance

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ceolas · 09/05/2007 19:04

Not at the moment. But DH is 9 years older than me and I know for sure that as far as he is concerned my child-bearing years are limited.

I just turned 31 at the weekend

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JoanCrawford · 09/05/2007 19:12

My father was 53 when he had my half-sister. He is the most wonderful dad. He had all the intentions of being a great dad when he was bringing me up, but age has given him a calmness and serenity that wasn't there for me.

He is now 63 and is fitter than my dh of 32! He goes to the gym and plays sports religiously. He eats fantastically well and really looks after himself. He is doing it purely and simply so he can see his youngest child into adulthood and one day, walk her down the aisle.

I think you can be as old or as young as you want to be

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Elibean · 09/05/2007 19:39

yup. dh was 46 when dd2 (our second and last) was born. There are plenty of older Dads at dd1's nursery, too

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OutragedfromTunbridgeWells · 09/05/2007 19:47

Have you got any Ceolas?

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oops · 09/05/2007 19:49

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beansprout · 09/05/2007 19:50

Dh was 46 when we had ds and will be 49 or perhaps even 50 if we have another one (we are ttc).

He is a brilliant dad and he has a demanding job but never moans or uses this as an excuse for not dealing with ds.

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