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DD1 asked me to "kiss her better" where the sun don't shine... what would you do?

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TheArchangel · 09/09/2006 14:18

Excuse this post if it seems a bit odd but I don't know who to ask - I don't really fancy calling my friends on a Saturday and asking them their opinion!

Whenever DD1 (age 2.6) hurts herself I always 'kiss it better' however today she has been complaining of being sore in between her legs. Earlier she insisted I 'kiss it better' and tried to make me kiss her where it was hurting.

I couldn't bring myself to do this for obvious reasons but still I found it hard to give her an explaination why I wouldn't kiss her. She got REALLY upset and cried for ages. I felt really cruel and in the end 'blew' her a kiss however she seemed really mystified as to why I wouldn't kiss her 'down there'.

I let my children run around naked and we have a pretty open attitude towards nudity in our house. I don't want to spoil my dd's innocence by making an issue of a body part that is to her no different than a hand or a foot!! (IYKWIM) I don''t want to make her feel dirty either.

What would you do? What should I do if it happens again? I simply don't want to make an issue of it in front of her!

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coderoo · 09/09/2006 14:19

deos nayone else kiss her better htere?
sorry bit it soudns odd

DontCallMeMalImMaloryTowers · 09/09/2006 14:21

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TheArchangel · 09/09/2006 14:21

Certainly not! She saw it as no different to localised pain on any other body part.

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BROWNY · 09/09/2006 14:22

Couldn't you just explain that a kiss this time wouldn't make it better as it was a special place, so it needs special cream. My daughter suffered for years (from a very early age) from being 'very sensitive' as the doctors put it. The only way to ease the soreness was mild canesten cream, again from the doctor. HTH

colditz · 09/09/2006 14:22

Because that is where you wee wee out of and I don't want to get wee wee in my mouth.

Pinotmum · 09/09/2006 14:23

Ds hurt his willy on holiday jumping in the pool (3 yo) I kissed his hand and told him to put it down his trunks

Medulla · 09/09/2006 14:23

How about blowing her a kiss or kissing your hand? Difficult one but as you say she just sees it as the same as pain anywhere else - poor little thing, hope she feels less sore soon! [smlie]

jabberwocky · 09/09/2006 14:24

That's a tough one! We do the kiss it, mommy, thing too - I guess everyone does, right? And the only embarrassing thing so far is when ds hurt his booty and said "Mommy, kiss my booty" Kind of funny really and I went ahead and did it. Your situation however is quite a bit more tricky. Are you using any ointment or cream for her down there? Could you call it kissy cream or something?

TheArchangel · 09/09/2006 14:24

That's a really good idea, BROWNY. Perhaps some Sudocrem would have a little more power have the placebo effect that kissing does! Thanks. If problem persists will look into getting some Canesten.

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WigWamBam · 09/09/2006 14:25

My answer would be that those bits are private and no-one is allowed to kiss them - not even Mummy - but that she could have a snuggle/kiss on the cheek/whatever to make it better instead. You don't have to make an issue of it, keep it low-key.

colditz · 09/09/2006 14:26

oh yes magic cream for sore bits.

TheArchangel · 09/09/2006 14:28

OK, thanks guys. Most replies seem pretty sensible to me... will give them a go if issue arises again.

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BROWNY · 09/09/2006 14:57

Hope she feels better soon!

HappyMumof2 · 09/09/2006 20:18

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kbaby · 09/09/2006 21:04

we use magic cream ie sudocream for any 'my bum is hurting' moments

morningpaper · 09/09/2006 21:15

I would say it needs special kisses that she needs to rub in herself

Then give her lots of kisses all over her hands and tell her to rub the kisses in where it is sore and they will make it all better

FrannyandZooey · 09/09/2006 21:17

Ds wanted to kiss dp's penis today - not sinister, just being affectionate and not understanding why it is different to his knee, foot, chin etc, all of which he also wanted to kiss. Dp just said "that part is private so you can't kiss it." No big problem.

izzybiz · 10/09/2006 11:36

My Dd is 2.3 and we do kiss it better too, she bumped her foo the other day and wanted me to kiss it. So i kissed her on her front, i didnt kiss between her legs, but she seemed to accept that!
I dont see it as a problem, its just a body part to them at that age.

twinsetandpearls · 10/09/2006 11:39

I totally got this wrong and thught that your dd had started to ask you to kiss her arse and had then moved on to saying you had to kiss her arse with more enthusiasm

alexsmum · 10/09/2006 11:39

i would go for the not getting wee wee in my mouth and make a slightly rude joke out of it.my kids would find tht hilarious- but they are boys!

trinityshiftingherleatheryarse · 10/09/2006 12:09

i would have just kissed it, she has no idea that its any different at that age. obviously they are private parts and she would be learning that now but surely still allowed a healing kiss from mummy

HappyMumof2 · 10/09/2006 18:05

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Californifrau · 10/09/2006 18:10

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FrannyandZooey · 10/09/2006 18:12

Tbh HappyMum I would not, but it would be because I would be worried about someone else getting the wrong end of the stick, not because I think there would be anything wrong in it. The kisses and cuddles we give our children are nothing to do with adult sexuality.

littlerach · 10/09/2006 18:14

Oh, Frau, that's so lovely.
may try that if DD2 kicks off at pre school this week.

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