Further freakingly fantabulous adventures of the 40+ Mummies Part 2

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blueblackdye Tue 21-May-13 21:08:55

Our 2nd thread is full but it won't prevent us from laughing, moaning, keeping on supporting each other, sharing and chatting over our new life with 1 or 2, even 5 children !
Here you go, fantastic 40+ Mums, a brand new thread for all of us, old friends from the pregnancy thread or new joiners

scarecrow22 Tue 21-May-13 21:11:45

thanks BBD x

blueblackdye Tue 21-May-13 21:14:52

Introducing the grads:

in 2012
Zombtee, 43, DS 3yo
Catdoctor, 44, DS 2yo
10000Fireflies, DS, 21 June 2012, EMCS
Goatbongosanonymous, 43, DS Kid, 18 July 2012, EMCS
Hpbp (now Blueblackdye), 42, DS1 4yo, DD2 Anastasia, 29 July 2012, VB
bytheseaside, DD1, 25th/26th September, EMCS (six weeks early)
Firstbubba, DS Jamie born 2 Oct, EMCS
Littleredmonkey 43, DS1 Dylan, 4th October EMCS
Fjordmor 41, DD1, 3 Oct, EMCS
Midget 41, DD 5yo, DS 16 Oct VB, but EMCS for placenta
Mrs”Oldandcobwebby”45, DD1, ELCS 19/10
Exexe, DC3, due for ELCS 17/10?
ValiumQueen 43, DD1 6yo, DD2 2yo DS2 Jacob 25/10/12 ELCS
Knottyhair DC2 Rosa b 17/12 ELCS 8lb 1oz

in 2013
Crazyforbaby, 44, DC6 due early Jan ?
ClickingTock, 40, DC2 due early Jan, sex a surprise ?
Eagleray, 41, DD1 28/1/13 Girl
Damash12, 41, DC2, due 29 Jan ELCS booked 17/1/13
Riversidelibrary, 42, DC1 25/1/13, Boy Samuel
Swanlike, 41, 31/1/13 ?
Nananaps, 42, due Feb?
Spiderbabymum, 40, due Feb?
TheNoodles, 41, DC1 due 14/3 (AWOL?)
ChairmanWow, 40, DS 2yo, DC2 b 28/3/13 by EMCS - clever little girl
Knickyknocks, 40, DC2 21/3/13
MrsWooster, 46, DC2 girl b 23/3/13
scarecrow22 DC2 boy T b 9/4/13, also DD 2y 4m when T born
Somewherebecomingrain, DS 4.5yo, DD 6/4/13 weighing 10lbs!
Cyclecamper DS April 2013 ?

Hooray, found you! Thanks, bbd

eagleray Tue 21-May-13 21:36:02

Yoohoo! Thanks BBD for new thread.

Jabs today. Meltdown has started..

scarecrow22 Tue 21-May-13 22:15:20

just expressing for first time. T is 6 weeks so approx how much milk can I expect him to drink/want in a bottle?? Thanks

lotsofcheese Wed 22-May-13 05:03:05

Marking place! Could someone kindly add me to the list? Am on phone & can't do it.

I'm lotsofcheese, 41 have DS age 4 & had DD Babybel by emcs at 36 weeks in April after a nerve-wracking high-risk pregnancy - no more for me!!!

Scarecrow; I guess 100-150mls might be a starting point? Just see how much you get from expressing 10-15 mins each side. Some people seem to do well with expressing, others don't - good luck!!

ChairmanWow Wed 22-May-13 07:26:18

Shiny new thread! Thanks bbd.

scarecrow your children are beautiful. That top photo of the two of them together is gorgeous. Hope your expressing is plentiful.

Time for the morning rush then a reward - my weekly massage. Can't wait!

littleredmonkey Wed 22-May-13 09:11:57

Morning
New thread so we need a new snug. Shall we have aromatic theme. Everyone can have their own scent. Mine is warm donuts this morning.
Eagle. Hugs for jabs. It will over quick then cuddles.
Scarecrow. Hope expressing goes well. Secret is the more u do the more u get. So keep on pumping girl

scarecrow22 Wed 22-May-13 09:32:26

hope babyEagle okay this morning. Do we have hot waiters in the grads snug? if so Eagle gets first pick today x

knickyknocks Wed 22-May-13 10:31:47

Thanks bbd for the new thread.

scarecrow baby KK at 6 weeks had about 90-120 every 3 hours. Now nearing 9 weeks it's increased ti 120-150 every 3ish hours.
eagle hope the jabs go ok. A necessary evil. I'll be glad to get the 12 and 16 week jabs done and dusted.

chairman that massage sounds divine!!! I'd love a good neck, back and shoulder massage - enjoy it's much well deserved.

lrm warm doughnuts?? Mmmmm.....my absolute downfall when we go to Brighton pier......Can I have a fresh bread aroma please with a hint of fresh filter coffee all served up by Richard Gere (in his officer and gentleman days......although the chances of him picking me up and carrying me off into the sunset aka debra winger style are sadly unlikely...I suspect he'd try and then promptly put me down again saying I can walk the rest....bloody pregnancy weight....grin}

Well, DHs employers really have taken the biscuit for being utter pricks. as most of you will know, he's a police officer. and works on a response team. About 18 months ago , after a 10 month wait for an answer, it was agreed to let him work compressed hours so he could look after DD on a Friday. He was told that he would need to re-apply for compressed hours on an annual basis. He found out yesterday that the majority of compressed hour requests for this year have now been rejected with very little reason given. Thankfully as I'm on mat leave this is not a disaster. But when I return to work, it will be.

There's just no way we can afford 2 in nursery 4 days a week. Have no idea what we're going to do. He's talking about a career break or leaving the job. We simply can't afford the childcare and don't have family help nearby. I feel so pissed off when I see on the police website that they are committed to family friendly policies for their employees when clearly it's the opposite.

Rant over. All else going OK. DD is srll having tantrums but becoming marginally less in time. DS is currently fast asleep in my arms as I type. I may be biased but he's gorgeous.

Talking of gorgeous - scarecrow that photo was adorable. Just beautiful smile.

eagleray Wed 22-May-13 18:28:16

Thanks folks - we are in post-jab hell here at the mo! She had them yesterday, and was pretty much fine at the time, but since then has been pooey/pukey (yesterday) and hot/pukey/irritable (today). The only reason I'm able to type anything at the mo is because she's watching something on YouTube for a couple of mins

Your DP's employers sound awful Knicky especially when they advertise themselves as family friendly. And the cost of childcare is just shocking shock

Ooh - love the smell of warm doughnuts! Not that I'm eating any at the mo as trying to be v strict with eating. Lost about 4kg in the last 6/7 weeks but it's hard! Even sticking to the weightwatchers regime and BF, it's not dropping off easily (no loss at all the last few days) but I have to do it!

Hope the expressing/bottle feeding going ok Scarecrow - have you got an electric pump? I've never managed to get vast quantities out, but by doing a few mins several times a day I was able to get a bottleful, and over time it's improved a bit.

Oh blimey, the air has just gone toxic - I think the excitement of watching a Youtube animation has caused Baby Eagleray to poo at last (been lacking on that front the last 24 hours...)

ChairmanWow Wed 22-May-13 22:36:21

knicky good to hear from you, but sorry that DH's employers are being shitty. Is there a Police Federation rep he can speak to? Sounds like advice and support are needed. Totally with you on child care costs and in fact am hoping to compress my hours into 4 days when I return to work too.

eagle hope there is no longer a sea of vomit. Jabs are horrible. Totally the right thing to do but horrible.

Re smells, anything is better than the dominant aroma chez Wow this evening - pooey nappy. Both kids have diarrhoea, baby W worse than DS. I think we're in for a rough night. Baby-wise I'm thinking we won't trouble the doctor unless she becomes dehydrated, gets a temperature or it persists for longer than 48 hours. Whaddya reckon? She seems fine in herself.

I'm another one for the doughnut smell, or anything bready really. I'd also like to bottle DD's baby smell and keep it.

somewherebecomingrain Thu 23-May-13 07:36:26

Marking place. Sorry been completely buried in the co sleeping safety debate thread.

Hugs to all x

littleredmonkey Thu 23-May-13 09:23:09

Chair. Hope both little ones ok this morning. Sending dognuts your way

Eagle how's baby e day. Hope the vomits have gone

Kicky. Sorry to hear about dp work. Echo talking to a rep for support and advise. Sucks and u all dont need the stress. Make sure u enjoy the weekend to take your mind off it even for a minute. I have a large pot of coffee and Richard gere in the snug waiting! !!

Also on the weight fight. Lost 55lbs since January 1st. Hard work doing exercises and diet and baby but I kept chipping away. Goal is another 8 lbs. So total 4.5 stone. My belly and ass r like jelly on a plate sorry platter it's a big ass.

Bbh hope u r not working too hard

Midget. What ya been cooking lately?

Scarecrow. How's the expressing going? I might try baby m with a bottle at night. He wakes and daddy gets but he wants me well my boobs he has a tiny feed then sucks for quite a while for comfort. Dp is upset he can't settle him so might try a bottle ? Thoughts ladies

blueblackdye Thu 23-May-13 12:22:18

Chairman, how are the children doing ? Has it improved a little bit ? Dehydratation is the worst thing in that case, but you are right, as long as baby W is himself, no fever, I guess it is ok to wait 48h.
Knicky, what a shame! You must be so angry and disappointed. You will get advice and find a way to work this out. My Dad, very wise Cantonese, used to say not to look at the door that just shut on you but at those that are now wide opened.
Eagleray, how is baby E today ?
Have to go now, be back, wave to Scarecrow, SOmewhere and LRM and every one else. Xxxxx

ChairmanWow Thu 23-May-13 19:59:46

Phew, well, DS is fine and only had one more runny episode in the evening. DD is still not good. I took her to the GP this morning in the end because it was so frequent and her bottom is in a terrible state. Prescribed some cream, and while I was there they did her 8 week check and jabs sad. Check went fine - she smiled at the doctor the whole time, such a happy baby. Jabs were of course heartbreaking. She's sleeping it all off now, and the diarrhoea seems to have lessened a little.

DH is kindly letting me sleep in the spare room tonight because I'm a wreck today and am driving us to visit mil 3 hours away tomorrow (if DD has stopped pooing). Can't wait for a night's undisturbed sleep. Feels like such a luxury!

blueblackdye Thu 23-May-13 20:58:25

Oh Chairman, it is very kind of DH, enjoy this peaceful night. I sometimes envy FF mums re sleep ! smile
LRM, I have the same issue, when night waking, A wants only me to stop crying, sometimes I can put her back down without feeding her, but most of the time 5 min on the boob and she is fast asleep again. Sleep training worked well for naps, I can't do it at night because I m too tired and scared she would wake DS, if I go cold turkey. Another project for the summer, I guess. So no advice here, but I m with you at every waking !
I love too the smell of fresh bread, I miss so much my baguette. A fresh baguette with salted butter and a piece of dark chocolate, yum yum. And the cherry on the cake would be George Clooney bringing me a Nespresso...
A is feeding atm and I have a big file to work on... Can't do it when DH is not around, really need to focus and not be disturbed by crying or incessant chatting (DS is a proper chatterbox).

scarecrow22 Thu 23-May-13 21:45:00

chair so pleased for the health improvement - and what a gorgeous DD you have. Bless her for being so good.
Eagle hope the eyrie is returning to health.

Am slightly unbalanced by the thought of a full night's sleep. I dream... It is totally possible in theory now as T loved his bottle last night. I actually live bottle feeding - I adore how they nestle in your arm and you can gaze at each other. Thanks for advice - stupidly forgot to show baby and the ungrateful tyke only took half the 125ml/4+ oz I'd lovingly collected for him. I had to Throw Away Expressed Milk. is this not yet a crime? Yet more proof it's a man's world.

talking of ungrateful rules, T also started smiling. Two definite smiles,so far: both entirely for daddy. Harrumph!

had T's six week weigh today - he has gained 1.5kg and grown 5.5cm. I thought thiscwad amazing but the health visitor did not give me a medal or call me up in assembly, so I guess it's not that soecual statistically speaking...
she did though refer us for a special massage session as still taking one hour plus to wind after feeds - boring for DD in day and super tiring at night.

Knicky, so sorry about childcare woes. Really help you can get advice and that DP perhaps helps you by being proactive and strong for you.

BBD - the origin of your sagacity is (ay least half) revealed smile

Seaside, Somewhere, Wooster, FG, VQ, LRM, Midget and all, waves and happy weekends.

littleredmonkey Fri 24-May-13 08:56:06

Bbh. Baby m woke twice last night poor daddy tried but he won't have it only boobs will do. So much more peaceful then baby upset. Dp said this morning about letting him cry ahhhhhhh! I can't do it. Useless I know he is so little still. So glad you do the same I know he only wants a cuddle and some comfort. He can settle to sleep by himself at a point when he wakes but if he wakes too much no chance
Well ladies shite weather and two pram walks to do today. Never mind. If my bloody scales dont say I have lost a pound this week I will throw them under a train.
Goat how's m sleeping at night honey? Hoping for more zzzzz
Bythesea. You ok?
Valium & ff. Hugs to u two
Scarecrow. Hope for smiles for you today

littleredmonkey Fri 24-May-13 08:58:13

Chair. Hope u had a peaceful sleep last night x

eagleray Fri 24-May-13 10:10:17

Morning all

Baby E is better now thanks - she did have a couple of days of feeling v 'off' though. Had to go and visit DM yesterday - she was supposed to visit me but somehow this never seems to happen and so off up the motorway we went. DM came out with another cracker of a comment re my appearance (as some of you may know, she's in the habit of doing this). She wanted to take a photo of me when we were out on a walk and I said 'oh, I'm feeling a bit down about having pics taken of me at the moment'. Her reply? 'never mind - your face still looks ok' confused

LRM you have been awesome with your weight loss!!! I've joined your wibbly tummies thread now

Chairman poor little DD - hope she is recovering ok now from jabs and diarrhoea. Hope your journey goes ok today - did you get your night of blissful sleep?

Scarecrow nothing worse than throwing away expressed milk - horrid isn't it! And am throwing a gold medal your way for the impressive growth!

BBD am with you on the baguette/butter/choc - that's what my holiday diet seems to have consisted of but miraculously still lost a bit of weight!

uh-oh - screeching can be heard from the jumperoo - my time is up...

blueblackdye Fri 24-May-13 11:40:30

Scarecrow, those smiles are the nicest things in the world, aren't they ? One little smile and Mums forget about sleepless nights and continuous crying.... Keep on pumping, I can't remember exactly but I think expresed milk can be re-used, or am I being silly ? Have no brain today. A did not really sleep last night !
Eagle, don't pay attention to your DM, to baby E, you are the most beautiful person in the whole universe. My DS keeps telling me that I m beautiful, his way of wishing me good night and saying I love you, Mum !

Nursery has dressing up day today. I have been checking on the webcam, and can spot him straight away, he has 2 big green ears and a monk white robe and a light saber ! So funny ! Can you guess who he is ? Yoda, of course ! Can't believe he still has it on since 8am ! I must have passed on my obsession of Star wars....
Oh, Accident Yoda had last night ! 1am, I was changing his bedsheets.... From 2 to 4am, dealing with crying A. I m knackered today. And we of course have visitors....

Have a lovely week end every one

eagleray Fri 24-May-13 11:58:08

Wow BBD I've got a lot to learn about nurseries etc! That's lovely that you can see him from home

For those of you with toddlers (Scarecrow - you come to mind as you often post conversations you've had with DD) you have to watch this

ChairmanWow Fri 24-May-13 13:19:23

Accident Yoda had last night - genius BBD. Had me chuckling.

I slept for the whole night last night. Oh. My. God. I feel like a new person! So sorry for lrm and bbd and your lack of sleep. Breast feeders - get those boobs milked and hand your OH a bottle if your little ones will take it. Have a break. I can't believe the difference.

That said DH had a pretty easy night of it. DD slept through til 4, had a bottle then straight back down. Her bottom is a bit better but she's still had a couple of episodes today. I think we're over the worst now.

eagle mums can be so tactless can't they. I'm sure you look great. My mum's recent one was 'well I'm sure if you try you can lose it all.'. She's hardly sylph-like herself so it's a bit rich!

Talking of weight, where are the fellow wibbly tummies? Linky please. I have a wobbly everything.

Have a good weekend all. I heard a rumour that it may even be less Siberian this weekend.

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