I need help to change my behaviour. I'm horrible, short tempered and sometimes unkind to DD (nearly 5). This morning she had wet her bed and I start making comments, generally moaning about the amount of washing I have to do etc. When I strip her bed and she asks me why I'm doing that I snap a barbed response "why do you think?". I have such a small amount of patience with her. She never listens to me (no wonder) and every request I make, I have to count before she does it, if I get to 5 and she's not done what I asked (put shoes on etc) it's time out. She much prefers her father's company (again no wonder).
She isn't the easiest child in the world, but I think I have never recovered from how hideous her behavoiur was when she was 3 and I had a new born. I know it is natural for children to play up when a sibling arrives, things were so tough then. But that was nearly 2 years ago, I need to be the bigger better person. She's actually a great kid.
I am a better parent to my second child. She must see that. I can.
My Mum was awful, cold, downright neglectful of me and I am scared I will turn into her. Everyday I tell myself, be patient with DD1, but at some point I lose it.
I'm feeling a lot of guilt. I tell her I love her a lot, we kiss and cuddle, spend time together and we do have fun. But I am just aware lurking in the background that sometimes I can be horrible, I don't want to destroy her confidence like my mum destroyed mine. I hate it and am hating myself.
Anybody have a similar experience or have advice on how I can change?
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Being a shit mum, horrible to my daughter, repeating mistakes my mum made
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doodleloo · 13/09/2011 12:50
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