I've just fallen out with a friend over something which may seem relatively trivial but which has made me very angry (unnecessarily so in the opinion of my friend).
Two weeks ago it was said friend's turn to host our weekly NCT meeting. When I arrived she said she thought her youngest might have conjunctivitis but wasn't sure and was taking him to the doctor later that afternoon. The other mother (also a good friend) there stayed with her children, as did I. My friend took her child to the doctor and when she came back I said "is it conjunctivitis?" She said "well, the doctor was vague, we've got drops anyway" or something like that. I didn't question further, and assumed that meant the anser to my question was "no". My friend then asked if I could pick up her children from nursery in 3 days time as she was away all day at a wedding. I agreed.
I spoke to my friend 2 days later and she said her child was a bit poorly and had been sent home from nursery and she'd let me know whether she was still going to the wedding. The next morning I spoke to her and she said child was fine, "just a bad cold" and was going to nursery. When I picked her child up from nursery at 5pm he had very crusty eyes and obviously had conjunctivitis. I'd agreed to take her child back to my house until someone else picked him up an hour later.
To cut a long story short, my friend told me a few days later that it was conjunctivitis. I was amazed and said I would never have agreed to look after her child if I'd known, particularly as dp was due to have laser eye surgery a few days later. She said she'd made it clear at the time, I said I felt she hadn't. Anyway, I said I thought she was selfish and irresponsible, believing that she had deliberately misled me. She was very upset at this accusation and we've fallen out. Apart from that problem, I feel very angry at the nursery for accepting a child (and this child wasn't the only one) with such an infectious complaint. I am tempted to report it to the council, without naming my friend's child, as I feel the nursery has acted very irresponsibly. To make matters worse my 4-year-old has come out with the infection. I'm annoyed about that, upset at falling out with a friend but still feel I'm in the right. Am I over-reacting?
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Fionn · 05/11/2002 20:02
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