In praise of only children - the great things about having just one!

(264 Posts)
flobbleflobble Mon 04-Jul-05 18:54:53

Just wanted to start a positive thread about how fab it is to have an only child! In reaction to all the threads worrying about how sub-optimal some folk find it not to have more than one...

So here goes - to start off a list in praise of only children :

- you can take them to stuff appropriate to their age group without having to drag along a disinterested sibling

- peace and calm at home with no sibling rivalry and squabbles/ violence

- you can do something with another family without involving 2 cars/people carrier

- far easier to combine one child with work/social committments

- easier to provide financially for 1 child

QueenOfQuotes Mon 04-Jul-05 18:57:34

(I've got two so slight hijack - and before anyone jumps down my throat I love 'em both to bits)


- Only have to go through the 'nappies', 'weaning' and 'tantrum' stage once.

- All the clothes they get are new (2nd in this house gets all hand-me-downs)

- You don't have to buy a huge house in order to still have a 'guest room'.

flobbleflobble Mon 04-Jul-05 18:59:35

- only 1 birthday party to organise each year

sallystrawberry Mon 04-Jul-05 19:02:05

ds was 8 before I had dd so I know what its like to have just one............ and its much easier to get babysitters

GeorginaA Mon 04-Jul-05 19:08:24

You never have to colour code the socks to make sure each child gets the right pair...

flobbleflobble Mon 04-Jul-05 19:09:33

milosmum Mon 04-Jul-05 19:10:09

i love the whole "calmness" of my house!

its such a quiet place, ds just plays peacefully- no rows about who had it first etc.

i love the bedtime routine- one bath, one story but alot of family time with just the three of us!

i love the idea of just deciding one day to go on a day trip without mobilising an army of stuff!

and most of all i just love giving my all to my ds!

Flobble- what a lovely idea for a thread!

kama Mon 04-Jul-05 19:11:42

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flobbleflobble Mon 04-Jul-05 19:13:55

You can have an unashamedly favourite child

GeorginaA Mon 04-Jul-05 19:15:21

(I should confess I have two children, but I'm an only child myself, so I can join in, right? Plus after today, I'd really like to sell one of mine on ebay - no favourites, either of 'em would do....)

milosmum Mon 04-Jul-05 19:16:32

georgina- i think the Kilshaws are still looking! (lol )

flobbleflobble Mon 04-Jul-05 19:16:59

GeorginaA you are really making me laugh today

lucy5 Mon 04-Jul-05 19:17:21

i'm thinking along the same lines as you kama, so its nice to see something positive.

flobbleflobble Mon 04-Jul-05 19:17:46

Less washing & ironing, more time for mumsnet!

katierocket Mon 04-Jul-05 19:18:43

and me

GeorginaA Mon 04-Jul-05 19:20:37

No competitions over which child can throw their dinner the furthest *rolls eyes* ... in fact, mealtimes were DEFINITELY simpler with just one!

No elder sibling to copy by climbing onto anything in reach then hurling themselves off it.

Only your parents to fight with over computer time

emily05 Mon 04-Jul-05 19:21:56

Most important one for us is we can only afford a tiny house (teeny tiny) so having one means we dont have to cram more stuff in!

GeorginaA Mon 04-Jul-05 19:22:17

And come on ... only ONE grotty monosyllabic teenager bursting with hormones... that has to be the best reason

flobbleflobble Mon 04-Jul-05 19:23:03

A generalisation with a lot of truth in it though IME - you can take an only child to an adult restaurant & they will behave nicely and enjoy it with you from quite a young age - my dd would happily go with us for leisurely lunches in France even at 2.

MrsGordonRamsay Mon 04-Jul-05 19:23:56

Flobble


You beat me to it re eating out.

GeorginaA Mon 04-Jul-05 19:24:24

No rows over who broke a favourite toy. If a toy is broken there can only be one possible culprit!

MrsGordonRamsay Mon 04-Jul-05 19:24:58

If they do get up in the middle of the night, and come into your bed, there is only one, less crowded.

GeorginaA Mon 04-Jul-05 19:25:17

(unless they blame the cat, of course!)

Hey, how about we turn this thread into the great things about having just one pet-allergic child

milosmum Mon 04-Jul-05 19:25:57

sometimes you feel a little annoyed at everyones asking "when you having the next one" but this thread is so positive!!

flobbleflobble Mon 04-Jul-05 19:25:58

If your child has a real flair for something - swimming/ gymnastics / whatever - you can accommodate this without other siblings having to fall in around it.

And if they need extra help/support with anything likewise you can give it without worrying about the effect on siblings

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