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Apologies for TMI: but please DESCRIBE dischargeof miscarriage TIA

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Diamondsamdrubies · 25/03/2011 10:21

Am 8 weeks 1 today. However, been having brown discharge at EVERY wipe after every loo visit since Tuesday. Even had dark brown thick clots. Period like cramping on and off. Scan due Tuesday. Just wanting to know if this is what a miscarriage looks and feels like TIA

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amberleaf · 25/03/2011 10:25

That can be common around the time of what would have been your period.

I had that and was fine, i also had a miscarriage and with me it was fresh blood.

I also had the cramping throught the first 3-4 months of all of my normal pregnancies.

Thats just my experience though

Its a worry, i hope it goes well for you.

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Diamondsamdrubies · 25/03/2011 10:35

Thankyou Amber. Does that then mean that if it were to turn out for the worse- the bleeding wood turn red? Shows no signs of subsiding ( the brown discharge)How long did your brown bleeding last for?
Sorry to hear of your miscarriage. x

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cherrychoo · 25/03/2011 10:37

Its difficult because every one is individual and probably has different experiences with different outcomes.
You wont know for sure till you have had your scan.

It is a worry, its very hard, but as i say, you wont know for sure until you have had your scan.

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Diamondsamdrubies · 25/03/2011 10:46

You're right cherry- and deep down I know that. It's just so difficult waiting in limbo like this. I wouldn't wish this on any one.

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cherrychoo · 25/03/2011 10:49

The limbo is utter utter torture, i know.

You swing from "its common therefore its ok" to "this is it, the end"

Torture, i feel for you.

freelancegirl · 25/03/2011 10:50

I started off with this last week and it turned red and the cramps turned into contractions and it didn't end well. BUT I have read so many stories on here of people getting bleeding all the way through, cramps frequently and it all being fine. Just keep a close eye on it and try to stay positive xx

amberleaf · 25/03/2011 11:03

cherrychoo is right, its different for everyone.

all of my pregnancies have been different even the ones that didnt end well [3]

re your Q will it turn red? I really dont know as when i lost mine it started off with red blood loss.

Fingers crossed for you for tuesday-why do you have to wait til then?!

Im sure on at least 2 of the occasions i was sent to the EPU [early pregnancy unit] at the hosp the same day i went to the docs if not the next day?

amberleaf · 25/03/2011 11:04

*where they scanned me to see what was happeneing [ie detect heartbeat-or not]

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Diamondsamdrubies · 25/03/2011 11:20

Freelancegirl: how many days did the brown bleeding go on for until it turned red? Sorry to head your news. Hope you are looking after yourself.
Amber: I was booked in for a reassurance scan following Hcg blood tests which were increasing slower than they should have been. They are fully booked at our local EPU. Nothing until Tuesday: when I was booked in for initially- spoken to gp and EPU directly: no joy.

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Diamondsamdrubies · 25/03/2011 12:13

Ok - just turned into fresh red blood now :-(

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harassedinherpants · 25/03/2011 13:11

Please phone your mw or epu now and ask for a scan.

I'm currently mc'ing and my epu had me in straight away on Wednesday for a scan, to check it wasn't ectopic and to take bloods.

Look after yourself, rest and do what you need to xx

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Diamondsamdrubies · 25/03/2011 13:41

Harrassed: Thankyou! EPU have said wait and see as I'm not in any pain! How much blood were you losing/ passing? Sorry for your miscarriage.

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harassedinherpants · 25/03/2011 13:46

Neither was I, in fact it hasn't hurt at all apart from odd period type cramp.

Started on Wednesday and first was just pinky discharge and mw said see how I go and phone if it gets worse. Then it turned bright red, but not enough to leave a mark on the pad, just a red discharge still. They referred me to epu then, and scan showed my womb was empty so they took bloods.

By early afternoon I was starting to bleed properly, bloods confirmed mc, and it's just been medium to heavy bleeding ever since. Some clots too. Not nice Sad.

If you look on the preg after mc thread on conception, many of the ladies have had bleeding and been just fine. Fingers x'd for you x

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Diamondsamdrubies · 25/03/2011 14:02

Thankyou harassed! In all honesty I've resigned myself to the fact that this IS a miscarriage. I've just broken out in spots - just like I do during a period. :-(

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harassedinherpants · 25/03/2011 14:38

Look after yourself and rest lots. I'm stupidly at work today and very much wishing I wasn't but finish soon. Although then I have to pick up 4.5 yr old dd and clean the house!

This is my second mc this year, although the one I had in January was a mmc and I had an erpc, and have really learnt that you just have to take one day at a time and do what you have to to get through it. I felt awful yesterday and wonder if that was my hormones crashing as I had the same before, so just be aware of that x

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Diamondsamdrubies · 25/03/2011 15:29

Thanks! I am working too! Will rest when I get back home. The house cleaning can wait another day. Take your own advice... Do something nice with your dd. Have a love restful weekend. Sorry that we are both going through such harrowing time x

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freelancegirl · 25/03/2011 17:57

Hi Diamonds. Sorry I didn't reply sooner, I was about and about but saw your update on my phone but couldn't sign in. It made me really sad to think that you might be going through what I did last weekend. Weekends make it more problematic too as if it does get worse many places can't do anything about it. I went to hospital twice and they gave me strong painkillers but said wait to my scheduled 12 week scan which was on Monday. And yes, by then I think I knew it wasn't going to be good news but there was always the tiny bit of hope.

Ok - I started with pink discharge and period-like pains on Friday morning, slowly turning to brown. Dark brown blood on Saturday (was still hoping that meant it was old) slowly turning to red (when I started to lose optimism). By Sunday it was all red and I was having serious contractions. On Monday they confirmed I had had a MMC at 7 weeks and on Tuesday I 'passed' the sac (sorry). Am still bleeding now in various colours...but I guess it doesn't matter now we know the outcome.

The way I saw it though, from the research I frantically did on the weekend as I am sure you are doing too, it is only really time to start worrying when you have a lot of blood combined with a lot of pain. Lots of people seem to have bleeding (again of all shades) and period-like pain and seem to be fine!! So I hope you can still have some hope. That said, harassed (who I am starting to 'know' quite well as we are both MC-ing this week and on the same forums...) didn't have the same experience.

Awful as it is, the only thing you can probably do is wait :( Realistically if it is bad news there's nothing the hospital can do anyway. Keep chatting to us here if you want to (I have been welded to MN for the whole week - first on pregnancy forum, then MC, now researching TTC after MC!) and remember we are always here to talk to. I am finding it so helpful that other people are in the same situation. Hopefully you are not in the same situation but you know what I mean xx

amberleaf · 25/03/2011 19:34

Hi Diamonds

sorry to hear the further developments.

Everything here crossed for you x

as they said on the phone any pain get straight back to them especially pain in your shoulders/arms as this can be a sign of eptopic.

Thinking of you, its not nice-i know how you feel x

Take care x

harassedinherpants sorry to hear of your loss too-take care x

amberleaf · 25/03/2011 19:36

freelancegirl sorry to hear of your loss xx

bemybebe · 25/03/2011 19:53

hi diamonds,

just tell the epu that you have pain, so that they scan you asap. unfortunately, if it is mmc there is nothing you can do at this stage, it is usually the nature's way of dealing with genetic abnormalities.

I had spotting and cramping on and off last autumn and had a mmc, then got preganant again. about 2 weeks ago i had massive bleeding (12 weeks) my jeans were soaked to the kneels (thank god i was at home!), when i undressed i had two streaks of blood running down my legs. went to a&e, they said the cervix was open so i should wait for mmc. 3 days later nothing happened so i went to epu (no pain at all). the baby was absolutely fine and the sonographer told me she would not have known what happened from my scan, there was nothing at all. baby was measuring 3 days ahead, very active, all markers within norm, so signs of damage or bleeding. go figure.

you just never know. never. even doctors.

bemybebe · 25/03/2011 19:55

freelancegirl Sad xxx

freelancegirl · 25/03/2011 20:03

Thanks Amberleaf and everyone. Bemybebe that's such good news it was ok this time! You must have been terrified. Especially positive news also to those of us who might want to try again afterwards.

Diamonds we all have our fingers crossed for you. Let us know how you are when you can xx

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Diamondsamdrubies · 26/03/2011 09:28

Bemybebe: that is such positive news. Congratulations on your pregnancy. Hope it's smooth sailing From hereonin.
Freelance: Thankyou for sharing your experience, so very sorry for your loss and what you are going through.
Amberleaf: thanks for your optimism and support.
I really do think I am miscarrying. Went to a and a last night, as there was lots of red period like bleeding. They took my temp and blood pressure; sent me home. Didn't even take bloods. Told me they can't prevent a miscarriage- so, go home and come back on Tuesday for the prebooked scan. I thought they'd take bloods for Hcg analysis. They reckon that proves nothing at this stage. No one there to do scans at 6 in the evening. No bleeding overnight. However, lots of red blood on waking with FMU, and still bleeding like a period. No pain yet. Period like feeling. Be honest, girls... With this much blood-there's no hope is there?

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freelancegirl · 26/03/2011 09:48

Honestly Diamonds I have read on MN about people losing buckets of the stuff and still being ok. Like bemybebe!

I feel absolutely awful for you as this is exactly what happened to me last weekend! I am not saying you are def having a mc, I am just saying that I went through the same thing because it is a weekend. A & E did nothing, not even a blood test, the first time I went. It was only on Sunday night when I went in crawling because of the contractions that they did bloods and gave me some heavy duty painkillers. But you don't have pain. That is a good, good sign.

I too had to wait until what was my scheduled scan on the Monday. On Monday, once we saw that sad little image on the screen, they gave me the choice to stay in, take painkillers and wait for it to happen or go home and do the same. Really, there was nothing more that they could do so I went home.

But I know how long Saturday, Sunday and Monday are going to seem for you. At least you know that if it gets any worse you can go in on Monday morning and there are docs and nurses and people on duty that aren't there on the weekend and more might be able to be done in terms of investigations.

PM me your number if you need anyone to talk to to make the long weekend any easier xx

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Diamondsamdrubies · 26/03/2011 10:19

Freelancegirl: Thankyou for your invaluable support. I appreciate thisso much. With regards to the optimism- it's difficult to take on board as the bleeding is regular and well established now- it's fresh too. I think I am miscarrying as you were last weekend. Bemybebe only had one big bleed. I've had the discharge since Tuesday which has developed into period like blood. I just wish I knew where we will go from here. If we go on to get pregnant again - is there anything we should do differently in order to ensure less chance of miscarriage. Took us so long to achieve pregnancy don't know where we would go now. Didn't even think it could get any worse. Thought our fortunes had turned: we were destined to be parents after all- maybe not! It's a cruel hand to be dealt. Like you say, to share the pain here makes it more bearable. I will take you on the pm -hope you don't come to regret it! x

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