Why were people giving dirty looks at me and pram

(41 Posts)
ilovemyCheebie Sun 16-Oct-16 00:09:58

Had not nice looks my way just today, looking at my daughter and me. We went to London for her first visit. DD was quiet, chilled in her pram, dressed pretty, clean an fresh. I dress modestly. I had people looking at me then my daughter in a weird way!

Can't work out if it's a "young single mum thing"?... I know people like to judge... I'm young but look older. I recently broke up with my partner and I notice that other people around me with prams are all with their partners. I met up with my brother there briefly, he was walking behind me at one point and noticed it. Even a group of people in front were looking behind jointly at me and my LO and giving me bad looks!... It felt uncomfortable. This is the only photo I took of us today it's a bit blurry, just can't work it out. Made me feel a bit insecure

JoyceDivision Sun 16-Oct-16 00:15:43

You have a young face op, probably people oiking up their judgey pants thinking you're an underage muvva, wahtever they are grin

Your dc looks very bonny x

HappyHeart87 Sun 16-Oct-16 00:16:21

I don't imagine anybody on MN could know why or how people were looking at you today, but sorry you felt uncomfortable.

I definitely wouldn't worry about people in London thinking you're too young or too single to have a child. From your photo you look a normal child-having age, and London is a pretty diverse place.

LilQueenie Sun 16-Oct-16 00:17:26

you had a massive bunch of judgemental idiots today. You do look youg but that's no reason for them t be rude. Your DD is so cute btw.

stiffstink Sun 16-Oct-16 00:19:14

Had you remembered to put trousers on OP? Its not clear from the photo.

Lilacpink40 Sun 16-Oct-16 00:20:03

Perhaps you were just around more inquisitive people or were just aware of eye contact in a new place?

Good on you for getting on with life after break up. I haven't braved London with DCs by myself...yet!

DPotter Sun 16-Oct-16 00:22:21

The only thing I can think off would be that you were using a pram. Obviously depends where you were in London, but a pram in a busy Oxford St would draw attention as it's big and difficult to dodge around in a crowded st. Anyway how could anyone assume you are a single mum ?Plenty of families have dads working at the weekend.

I think you and your DD look lovely. Please don't worry about a bunch of people who you don't know.

Winniethepooer Sun 16-Oct-16 00:23:54

I think if people were looking at you & your baby, it was because your both stunning & beautiful

You know what?

Who cares? Don't give it a second thought!

ilovemyCheebie Sun 16-Oct-16 00:26:05

Maybe everyone in london just looks miserable lol but yes I had a pram in a very busy place. That is a good point! maybe that annoyed people as I was near the London eye an it was pretty busy

Onynx Sun 16-Oct-16 00:27:48

Possibly jealousy - or people wondering how can you look so good AND have a baby! Enjoy your little baby. Beautiful pic.

DPotter Sun 16-Oct-16 00:30:09

I'm not saying you shouldn't use your pram !
I agree with Winnie and Onynx - you look stunning and happy!

BastardGoDarkly Sun 16-Oct-16 00:30:10

Well, London can be unfriendly can't it? You don't get much nodding and smiling at strangers, in my experience anyway.

Don't give it another thought.

SuperPug Sun 16-Oct-16 00:43:15

Lovely photo smile
Oxford St is horrible, people can be very rude when it's extremely busy (lived in London nearly all my life), please don't take it personally. Also, it's nobody business how old you are, pretty sad for them tbh.

QueenLizIII Sun 16-Oct-16 00:52:49

No one was looking at you. At all.

You wouldnt get a second glance on the streets of London. I think you may have imagined it. You were nothing out of the ordinary.

UnderTheGreenwoodTree Sun 16-Oct-16 00:52:49

My (extensive) experience of travelling in London is that people either ignore you or give you a grumpy look. Generally, that is.

Don't worry about it, they were probably just frowning at something that might hold them up for an extra 5 seconds.

eyebrowsonfleek Sun 16-Oct-16 00:57:34

How big is your pram? If you had a coach built Silver Cross in cramped areas then it might have been your pram that was annoying them.

RepentAtLeisure Sun 16-Oct-16 00:57:39

You wouldnt get a second glance on the streets of London. I think you may have imagined it. You were nothing out of the ordinary.

She's very good looking and you know it. Green eyes Liz?

user1471545174 Sun 16-Oct-16 01:04:00

Agree with Queen Liz, it's quite difficult to attract attention in London and a pretty girl with a pretty child isn't a rare sight.

They might just have been doing the London 1,000-yard stare or, if the experience of being there was unusual for you, you might have looked at people yourself and got looks back?

I barely bother looking at anyone any more as there are just too many people to bother about. I look at clothes if they are particularly nice or nasty - saw a guy in a really hideous suit today.

ilovemyCheebie Sun 16-Oct-16 01:13:37

I work on a farm most days and otherwise have a few shops in my vicinity . Pushing the pram through that road, It was like pushing custard up a hill. I for sure got some mean stares but that must have been why, as it was only from people in my path. It wasn't something I thought of before, there was me thinking people were judging! Thanks anyway guys

LucyLot Sun 16-Oct-16 01:28:17

You're so pretty and your DD is gorgeous. In all honesty I don't mean to be rude at all but you could pass for 14! Take it as a compliment as I said you are very pretty.

bloodyteenagers Sun 16-Oct-16 02:06:18

Was you hitting ankles? I just find it odd that people in front of you were turning round to look at you.

Glastokitty Sun 16-Oct-16 02:11:08

Blimey, I honestly think it's just the London thousand yard stare thing. Most Londoners wouldn't bat an eye if you were eight foot tall, naked and dressed like Cleopatra, so I doubt very much you were getting dirty looks unless you were bashing ankles with your pram.

QueenLizIII Sun 16-Oct-16 12:13:21

She's very good looking and you know it. Green eyes Liz?

Haha

No.

Are you a sock puppet for the OP.

If it was anything...she was probably dawdling with her buggy and people wished she'd get out the way.

Thinking that people were staring at her and glaring at her a) because she is a single mother, b) young and c) jealous of her looks.....including me.

I have honestly never witnessed such vain glorious self flattery undertaken with a straight face.

QueenLizIII Sun 16-Oct-16 12:16:55

And I meant not out of the ordinary in terms of a young single mum...as if they dont exist in London by the thousands? I didnt mean looks.

cosmicglittergirl Sun 16-Oct-16 12:21:12

Imagine if people who lived in London nodded at any stranger they saw, they'd be like nodding dogs.
Also, bear in mind most people in Oxford Street aren't actually Londoners...

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