Starting a new thread as I've recently found myself single at 20 weeks pregnant.
Don't really want to go into details but fairly sure he was/is a narcissist and he'll be on a life long sulk now, which is why he didn't show up to the scan yesterday. I'm also fairly sure he won't ever pay a penny or see the baby. I know I will be ok but I do worry for the baby.
I am planning on seeing a solicitor ASAP to discuss:
- Birth certificate. Should he be on it? What happens if he is/ isn't? (to be on it, he would either have to attend in person or sign a form, not sure if he will do either of those).
- Maintenance. Can I get any? What happens if he leaves the country? (he's Italian/Dutch)
- Writing a Will, who can I nominate as legal guardians if I die?
I am also slightly freaking out about money, because he owes me about £450 (but then he says I owe him money for stuff we bought together for the house). I'll do a spreadsheet later with everything on, hopefully I will calm down then. Haven't bought anything for the baby yet except for a moses basket for £20 from gumtree.
This website is great for doing budgets. www.stoozing.com/calculator/soa.php
Looking forward to hearing from others in the same situation (no !)