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I know another one of those DH is leaving me........

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horsecrazy · 29/08/2006 00:07

I know, I know everyone has heard it all before......but when it happens to you it hurts so bad...........my DH has just turned round and said he is leaving me and our four children as he doesnt love me anymore. We are going through a tough patch with neighbours and money (so who isnt?) and he is copping out than trying to sort things out.............What a... C.U.N(ext).T(uesday) huh

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lou33 · 29/08/2006 00:13

i'm sorry to hear your news

Californifrau · 29/08/2006 00:14

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horsecrazy · 29/08/2006 00:15

thanks all

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aitch71 · 29/08/2006 00:16

oh that is crap, you poor thing.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 29/08/2006 00:18

Oh im so sorry

Saturn74 · 29/08/2006 00:19

Oh Horsecrazy, what sad news.

fattiemumma · 29/08/2006 00:20

It's pants hun. Sorry

maybe he will take some time away and realise what it is he has lost.

((((hugs)))) in the meantime

horsecrazy · 29/08/2006 00:26

thanks all, he is leaving on Wednesday....cause thats when he gets paid. We have no money at the moment. I have said I want all the money......which he says he is giving me apart from taking some for him to live......so he is making me hang on and suffer.......I have no one else i.e. family in my life, other than a nice little old lady across the road....who gave me a shoulder to cry on today. So single parenthood here I come..........why is that some men are such ##&&@@*:$~###

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Alibaldi · 29/08/2006 00:29

I know what you mean. Mine's the same, moved out, moved back in but get's upset cos fridge is messy and I'd dumped a box in the garage. Hard for me as I want to stay here in the USA, but on his visa, applied for Green Card (sponsored) but I'm at the end of my tether too. Sending you loads of hugs from Colorado PS, if you ever want to chat offline late at night I'm always on. Ps my h had an affair too to make matters ever worse with a colleague here.

PinkTulips · 29/08/2006 00:30

so sorry horsecrazy.

horsecrazy · 29/08/2006 00:31

Alibaldi thanks for your message.....feel for you too hun.......it sucks huh.......I think I have cried so much I have no more tears left just a great big fat headache that wont go away.

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horsecrazy · 29/08/2006 00:32

thanks everyone else also.....your kind words are a comfort to me.

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Alibaldi · 29/08/2006 00:33

I know what you mean. Had to go to GP today and surprise surprise bp was up through the roof. told him why. Got a bottle of wine to drink tonight and my neighbours homemade choccie brownies, so will save one for you.

brimfull · 29/08/2006 00:37

so sorry horsecrazy,this is happening to a really good friend of mine at the moment aswell.Yes some men are bastards when it comes to dealing with problems.How long have you been together?Does he not want to try relate?

horsecrazy · 29/08/2006 00:38

Alibaldi thanks u......I am going to be out when he leaves as cannot bear it.

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horsecrazy · 29/08/2006 00:40

ggirl........he has only just said to me he has a problem with our marriage......he said he has been feeling like this for 5 months now?!...funny how our relationship/sex life has been fine up until 2 days ago........we always said if we had problems we would go to RELATE......I have asked him now.....and he said NO.....he just wants to leave

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brimfull · 29/08/2006 00:47

God 5 months is nothing ,aren't the 4 children worth making an effort to make it work?
I've been married for 18 yrs and there are definately times when it's really hard,but I wouldn't give up on the relationship.Is there someone else involved, usually is ime?

horsecrazy · 29/08/2006 00:51

ggirl.....not sure.......I have asked him if he has someone else and he has said no?.........I am also thinking this........we have been so happy and it all ended 2 days ago....its crazy huh....I have begged him to stay (embarrasing) but I can't make a fool of myself anymore. I said to him, when he leaves he never looks back.

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brimfull · 29/08/2006 00:55

does he know where he's going?

brimfull · 29/08/2006 00:57

I would insist that he explains his leaving to the children,face up to what he's doing.
So sorry you're going through this.

horsecrazy · 29/08/2006 01:01

thanks ggirl.....he says he went to our local council today and they have offered him a bedsit in a local town near us (didnt know the council could house you that quick?)........but you are right about the kids side.....I will get him to talk to them tomorrow.....knowing him he will chicken out......dont think he really cares to be honest

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Alibaldi · 29/08/2006 01:15

Yes I think he should tell them too. My H didn't and still says nothing to the boys, okay they're 4 1/2 and 3 but still not like I went off and slept with someone else and then walked in and out of their lives. Wish I wasn't 5000 miles away as I know exactly how you're feeling right now

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horsecrazy · 29/08/2006 01:18

Alibaldi thanks babes.......tried to pm u but cant as asking for a payment???......thanks for your words.........I know what you guys mean......mine are very young too, but he just wants to walk other than speaking to them........coward is all that I can muster from it.

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Alibaldi · 29/08/2006 02:40

alison dot smits at btinternet dot com that should to it!!!!!

ggglimpopo · 29/08/2006 08:00

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