Hi all. Hopefully one of you can give us a little bit of help/advice, perhaps someone here has been in the same situation.
My partner has two children under 5, he and his ex (children's mother) have informally agreed to share the care of the children 50/50. There are no current court orders or residency orders in place regarding contact or where the children live. The children live with us one week and their mother the next week.
Cafcass have now become involved due to another issue (not directly relating to the children). It is now almost certain that leading on from this a court are likely to be ruling on residency of the children We have been advised that cafcass are very likely to recommend to the court that very young children (they are both under 5) should not be spending 7 nights at a time with each parent and that it could be detimental to them and that they should have one set home and lots ofcontact with the other parent too.
DP is very worried. He obviously wants what is best for his children but understandably doesn't want to see them only every othe weekend as we have been told often this is ordered by the court. He wants to do everything he can both in the children's best interests and his own to ensure if the court do order one parent has them more that it is him. There are no issues with either of them like drink or drugs or abuse or anything that means one is less appopriate to have the children. Can anyone make any recommendations?
The alternate week care has only been in place for less than 4 months. Before that, for around 9 months he had them most nights, she often "had" them
during the day and she paid him maintenance via csa on the basis of her having them overnight one night per week.
He has the child benefit in his name as he had them much more than she did. She lives a 15 min drive from the school and nursery he lives in the home which has historically always been the children's home (10 min walk from the school). The children's medical reords, G.P's etc is all registered to his address as is the primary school and nursery.
We are moving in together with my daughter too. This means we will be able to care for the children between us without the need to use much if any childcare. The children's mother has recently increased her work hours and we assume this means the children may be in full day care 8-6 a fir bit when she has them. Of course many people use childcare but DP is of the thinking that surely the kids are better to be with him/at home than in paid daycare. He is soon changing his workplace to work near the school and is going to reduce his hours too so he can spend even more time with them
So for the last year he can prove he has had them much more than she has so it's is what the children are more used to and we believe that if the court are to order one parent to have them more that it should be him. We also try and encourage contact and communication between her and the children, we get the children to call her etc something that she has yet to do.
So, I'm waffling now but any advice or tips would be very welcome.
Thanks.
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