Oh fostering and fishtank - you are very complimentary. As I've said before I think helping MNs helps me too because I am no longer working and I do sometimes miss it and I am still interested enough to keep up my subscriptions to Community Care and other sw journals, though I will of course be beyond my sell date sooner or later!
I will have a look at your link kiwifruit - sounds interesting.
Cuttsy - I'm afraid I still smell a rat! Am I right in thinking that you have 4 of your own children and have been fostering 3 who you are proposing to foster on a permanent basis? I need a lie down just thinking of it! I am wondering if this business of the foster children sounding "too mature" is a euphamism for them picking up stuff from your children (I honestly don't mean to imply anything critical) it's just that older children will say things that are normal in their age range and then younger kids pick it up. I was involved in a private law case once where the father was applying for contact of his son and the mother was putting every obstacle in the way. She ended up phoning the NSPCC to say that her son (aged 10) had come home talking of "gaylords" - in my experience all yr 5 and 6 kids talk of gaylords, and at senior school. The boy also apparently grabbed his mother's breasts and started saying "bitty" and this of course was from that programme "Little Britain" where there is a character who does just that. Maybe the boy's gran shouldn't have let him watch it but it wasn't anything serious. His mother claimed that he had found a "sex toy" at his dad's home but when I interviewed the boy, he had no idea what I was talking about.
Sorry if I'm waffling on but you mentioned something about a relative going to a solicitor and people whose children are being fostered will often tell all manner of lies to justify why the children should not have been removed.
I would ask:
- What exactly do they mean by acting too mature and don't let them wriggle out of answering.
- Who do they intend to carry out a core assessment on?
- If it is you, what is the reason.
- Why are these children being removed for 6 weeks. What is the purpose of this. Again don't let them slide round the issue.
I honestly think they are not being straight with you and are drip feeding you this, that and the next thing. I think you have been given at least 3 different explanations.
I cannot believe that you are being treated like this - they are meant to be working in partnership with you FGS. They are trying to fob you off and this is totally unacceptable. Be more assertive Cuttsy!