I'm sorry this is a really long post. I had a horrible birth and I'm not coping too well as keep having flashbacks and getting upset but no-one else to talk to.
I thought I'd prepared well, planned a homebirth as I'm scared of hospitals, got a lovely doula, did hypnotherapy, baby was happy and a good position and no problems throughout pregancy. I was really looking forward to giving birth and meeting ds.
In the end I was overdue 42+3. Baby wasn't distressed and I felt fine but was talked into an induction by dr. Dr didn't mention any risks.
I was induced over 2 days. Was given drip on second day + new midwife came on who was horrible. I tried to have a joke with her and she said I'd soon be in no state for chatting . She just kept staring at the monitor and writing but not saying anything to me for a couple of hours . I was excited to be in labour though I got to 5cm fine then all hell broke loose.
DS heartbeat dipped loads, a dr was called then a crash team came within seconds to run me to operating theatre for a c-section. My DH and I both thought DS was dying. I was suddenly in a lot of pain. Had to beg for GA as I didn't want to see DS pulled out if he was ill or worse. Thankfully DS was born ok and is fine.
I'm loving being a mummy but I can't sleep or relax as I get flashbacks whenever I'm not busy. I also keep dwelling on something happening to me, like getting cancer, and dying. I'm so upset I wasn't the first to hold DS and say hello. I also hate how my tummy looks with the overhang and scar. I've told HV and dr but they didn't really make anything of it as not PND. Scared of having any more babies in case it happens again. DH traumatised too and doesn't like talking about it. I feel cheated of the normal birth I was looking forward to and get upset whenever I see pregnant women or anything about birth as I feel like it was completely taken out of my hands and drs said whatever they thought would get me to agree to an induction. No-one had given me a "debrief" of what happened, if I can have children normally in the future etc. and I don't know who to ask. I can't go back to the hospital as I get panicky.
Has anyone else been upset by a similar experiance and how did you get over it?
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mumtoed · 19/03/2010 12:19
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