First of all, i am sorry if this is the wrong place to post, not really sure where else i could put it.
I have been having all these very vivid memoried reciently, from my childhood, it is making me very nervous, and maybe even quite enraged.
My dad worked a lot when i was young so a lot of my time was spent with my mum and my sister, who is 2 years younger than me. My mum used to make my sister and i sit on the sofa and not move, if we moved we would get a slap, or several. She used to make us fight, and used to do things like say to my sister ' did prammy say a bad word?' my sister would be scared to answer, and my mum would say ' just tell me the truth and you wont get into trouble, i won't give her a row' if my sister said yes, she would get hit for not telling on me, and i would get hit for swearing. I remember spending hours in my room. I remember both my sis and i being taken out of our beds and put outside for having a carry on at bed time, when i was about 6.
A lot of things could be bringing these memories up, my mum was and still is very controlling. I am 24, my sister 22, i spoke to my sister to see if she remembers these things and her memories seem to be far worse than mine. For example she remembers wetting herself because she was so scared when my mum was shouting her, and because she wet herself she was wrestled to the floor and a nappy was put on her. She must have been at least 5 when that happened because she was 5 when our brother was born,it was his nappy.
So i have found myself being very short tempered towards my mum, and feeling very angry. The thing is, she still tried to control us, i have noticed that she is often saying bad things about my sister to me, and sometimes she doesn't even answer us if we speak to her. She lies a lot to us, tells one of us one thing and the other something else. Whenever i see her now all i can't act properly because i feel so nervous. I have been feeling like this for the past 6 month or so.
What would be the best way of dealing with it?
Sorry for the looong post.
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All these bad memories are getting to me.
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PrammyMammy · 07/03/2010 16:08
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