I just want to type how I am feeling and get it out of my system.
And please, no bollocking, I do enough of that for myself.
I feel so pointless at the minute. My parents didn't want me and various foster carers didn't either.
I never felt like I fitted in anyway. I wasn't the pretty one. I was teacher's pet, very bright but weird as I didn't live with my parents.
I fell completely for my first boyfriend and thought we would be together for ever. We went out for weeks before we kissed and 2 years before we slept together. We spent the next 3 years on and off. I would see other boys but always think of him. Even got engaged twice.
Had a mini fling then followed my friend's advice instead of my heart and that was that.
Had a really good job, bought my own flat. Doing okay. Found out he had married and was devastated.
I met a boy, married him, had babies with him. Went through hell with lots of things but are solid.
Found ex again. Head messed up. Couldn't handle talking to him, couldn't bare not talking to him. This went on for months. Arranged to meet. I cancelled. Marriage better than ever.
Through this time I was really struggling with the children so wanted to just be like we used to be when I was with my ex. Just felt so lost and sad.
Fast forward and no contact for 2 1/2 months and then a couple of chats, talk again 2 months later and we were both honest and I felt calm. Few days of talking and then it is all a mess again.
I love my husband so much and have asked my friend to delete is number she was keeping for me in case I needed it and I have no way of contacting him now.
But I just feel like I have ruined everything. I feel trapped with the kids as I can't cope with them or get them to help around the house, behave, nothing.
My husband means everything to me yet I have hurt him by talking to this ex and I wonder what the hell is wrong with me. I am used to everything ending and still feel dh will leave me now I have given him children so maybe I should pre-emt it.
I am so angry that I have been so weak and still care for someone who has always broken my heart.
I need to learn to live with my feelings as talking about them just makes them worse as I keep feeling like we should be together, me and the ex but dh is the one I love, the one I am in love with, my best friend, the only person in the world who I know loves me and the person who makes me feel safe but I can't help thinking what is in it for him and that I don't derserve him.
I sometimes wish we had not had children as I struggle so much and are not good with them.
I am used to people hurting me and walking out on me, my ex was the first person ever to care but even though it didn't last I still feel like he is all I deserve.
It is all mixed up together but shouldn't be really. I can't bare the thought of never speaking to him again but I also know I can't deal with doing so.
I just feel so annoyed with myself, so weak, so stupid but so vulnerable and sad.
I really don't want any replies. I just want to get this out of my system so I don't spend the night thinking of it.
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The longest ever post, just talking to myself.
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iamreallysad · 07/02/2010 17:38
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