My very lovely nanny has been suffering from severe depression for over a year now. In the summer she tried to harm herself and I took her to a psychiatrist who gave her antidepressants and after some delay (NHS) she started counselling. I thought things were getting better as she said she was fine but over Christmas it became clear that she was still in a bad way and she was referred to the community mental health team. As she has no family or friends in the country and says she doesn't trust people I have become their point of contact and they have told me they have become increasingly concerned about her. Last week they decided that she must go into hospital voluntarily or be sectioned. She's been in hospital this week and I hahve visited her and attended meetings about her progress. They are looking to discharge her next week at some point.
My concern at this point is her state of mind - but also the safety of my children. She is wonderful with them and they adore her but if she has been suicidal this makes me very anxious about leaving them in her care. Even more so because she gave the impression of being fine for several months when she clearly wasn't. This is complicated by the fact that she has apparently (though she denies this to me) told the mental health team that her job with me is the one thing that keeps her from harming herself. So even if I were to think about letting her go - I would feel directly respopnsible if something happened to her.
I feel really trapped by the situation, I care about her, want to help her but am very anxious about the whole thing. And it is a responsiblity feeling like her "carer". Plus how long will this go on? In a couple of years I wont need a nanny - how will she cope then?
I don't really see I have any option but to carry on supporting her - I couldn't forgive myself for "abandoning" her but I'm feeling quite unhappy about it all at bthe moment.
I would love some advice or words of comfort.
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Can anyone give me advice/reassurance (Long sorry)
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Kitsilano · 06/03/2009 16:00
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