hello, i wonder if any of you can tell me what i ought to do. about me: i'm early twenties, single mum to a 9 month old. i've always been shy and quiet and for a long time i just liked my own company perfectly much. i've been depressed on and off since i was about 14. never had any help. i'm an only child. i don't get along with my dad much never have but he's good to my daughter. and as for my mum she's great a big help. but one day she's gonna die...my daughter sees her dad once a week.
three months ago i moved out to live alone with my daughter. at about the same time i cut off my ex who i suppose i still loved but who was not treating me with any respect. it was hard... at near enough the same time i had to cut off my daughter's father. he caused me stress and such and put his hatred for me before his daughter's welfare. he was my best friend once. my daughter gave me strength and for a while i felt proud for respecting myself and her more.
i have two friends currently: one's a boy who doesn't see anyone much. we pretty much only speak on msn. he's a friend and no more (tried and tested lol). the other's a girl who lives well over an hour away. but we meet up once a month ish for shopping trips.
i get very nervous and make people uncomfortable with it. so making friends is hard. and unfortunately depression left me distanced from my schoolfriends so i never kept them around like most people. and even when i for some reason eg at children's centre i am chilled and manage a bit of seemingly normal conversation, i never see the people again.
the last few days my daughter and i have been so bored. i've been so tired and haven't tidied and wanted to sleep and hibernate. i've got us out at times despite feeling pretty agrophobic and having the tensest, occasionally twitchy face ever. but it's been rubbish. i've been stressed, i've woken from a perfectly nice dream in the middle of the night and immediately felt stress and arm pain. and i'm so lonely. i don't want to take anti depressant pills. if i'm gonna take drugs i'd rather they were fun as well as helpful. i'm socially retarded. i really am. i feel like going nuts in the way of that guy off'v revolutionary road. forgetting about social rules entirely... not that i'm even familiar with them. but that's no good for my daughter, so i stay, i try and keep it together like i've done all my life. it's the sensible thing to do... always done the sensible thing...i even drink pretty sensibly, circumstances considered.
i've started various classes with regular adults (thanks again to my mum for babysitting) but i don't know how long i can wait for any of them to bear friendship fruit. and i'm really not used to going so long without sex... (well, unless i'm pregant but that's different)...
what on earth are my options? i'm starting to feel that my previously happy contented daughter is getting less so due to boredom cooped up indoors. i don't want to let her down.
do i sound horrible?
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what do i do? lonely... long post sorry...
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melll · 06/02/2009 21:53
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