Mental health issue or not .....?

[Showmeheaven]

I'm very concerned about my sister and wonder if anyone knows anyone else with the following "symptoms". She has a good, well paid job, and has a devoted DP and a comfortable life, but I haven't seen her laugh in about 10 years

I don't think she is depressed because she gets on with her life and is able to hold down a demanding job. On the surface it looks like she has everything, but its quite apparant to those close to her that all is not right. Other symptoms are as follows:

She gets irritated very easily.
Is very much a loner.
Has either alienated or pushed most friends & family out of her life.
Has a controlling nature.
Judgemental of others, doesn't suffer fools gladly.
Holds grudges, finds it hard to forgive (this is probably why she has alienated a lot of people).
Can get very moody at times. Sometimes I don't hear from her for weeks on end. At other times her mood is o.k., but I find I'm forever walking on eggshells around her for fear of upsetting her.

She also has many wonderful qualities. She is generous to a fault, she adores my children, and would walk to the end of the earth to help others. And when I say she is judgemental of others ..... its because she has a compassionate nature and genuinely believes her way is the right way (but she then gets annoyed if people don't follow her advice!!).

Our relationship has suffered a lot over the years (mostly due to her controlling nature). She just about tolerates me, but is prepared to continue having a relationship in order to be close to my children (which I don't mind at all because she is unable to have children of her own).

Does anyone know anyone like this or could you point me in the right direction ? Many thanks.

[MarshaBrady]

You know when I was reading this I thought she probably wants to have children but can't for some reason, then reached the bit where you say yes she is unable to have children.

Is she hurting because of this? it's a huge thing to want and not have. Does she talk about this much?

[Showmeheaven]

She had several miscarriges and also went through IVF a few years ago but it failed. She was upset at the time, but she is a very rational person and came to the conclusion that if it didn't happen, then it wasn't meant to be. She would have loved children, but isn't the type to brood over it forever.

p.s. she was also like this long before she tried to have children, so it wasn't brought on because this.