Probably the wrong place but.....

[LuckySalem]

Lately,

I've been feeling totally depressed, isolated and "overworked" by my DD.

Its mostly my own fault as when I met my DP I lost touch with some friends then having DD made me undesireable to go out with.

Now I'm being asked to go out and feel guilty about going and I just can't trust anyone with her except my mum and I dont want her to babysit all the time.

What is wrong with me I feel like a walking hormone.

[Dragonbrandybutter]

how old is your DD?

[LuckySalem]

10 months old

[TotalChaos]

why can't DP look after her? Does he work nights?

[Dragonbrandybutter]

tbh i wasn't very good at leaving DS1 with people until he was much older. I wish i had though, as once i did i realised how important it is to have a break.

if your mum minded, wouldn't she say something?
also, by going out, you will make more friends and will in the long run have more babysitters.

have you asked for help re: feeling depressed?

[LuckySalem]

DP works nights. He watches her in the morning but he's not really watching her IYKWIM. I think cos I'm there he knows i'll deal with her.

Mum wouldn't mind but I'm not a going out person. They want to go out and get drunk or go clubbing and its not my idea of a good night.
A good night to me is a nice meal and a couple of drinks in a nice quiet place to have a natter. Or I enjoy going doing stuff with DD cos she is such a lovely bubbly person she wants to play all the time but I dont want to go somewhere with just her cos I find myself bored or running around after her when I know she'd probably be better being allowed to go look around herself.

I've not spoke to anyone about being depressed because some days i'm happy as larry (where did that saying come from?) but sometimes I find myself crying for no reason or getting annoyed with DP for not really good enough reasons.

[Dragonbrandybutter]

I've suffered from depression and part of it for me is that i avoid social situations too.
Also, i never felt bad every day but once the bad days started to outnumber the good, i went to the GP for help.
It really is important that you talk to somebody in RL about how you are feeling so you can get some help.

There are plenty people out there who prefer a quiet meal or a drink somewhere quiet, but it might be that you need to feel better about yourself before you can feel ready to actually organise something that you want to do.

I can't stay on MN for much longer but will check on this thread tomorrow.
Sleep well.

[LuckySalem]

Its not that I want to avoid social situations but I want to take DD and no-one wants to go with her. I did have 2 friends with kids but 1 has moved away and the other works all week and goes out ALOT so there isn't anyone with DC's here.

I go to babyclub once a week and DD LOVES it I've tried suggesting that we go to the local soft play but they dont want to go cos their DC's are over a year and they have to pay or the "little clique" is going shopping which of course i'm not invited to.

I'm a social person, I talk to them all in babyclub about all sorts its not like I sit in the corner murmuring to myself.

I've recently made a new friend through an animal rescue website but she has no DC's so doesn't really want to go to a soft play area or swimming etc.

I just dont know what to do,

[Dragonbrandybutter]

I guess for some people it's important that they have time away from the kids. Everybody's different that way.
I'm sure there are plenty people who feel the same way as you.
Maybe you could suggest a mumsnet meetup local to you for people who want to get together with the kids?
Or suggest to other mums at the baby club to meet up on another day?

[LuckySalem]

Yeh... am feeling a little better today cos my friend is bringing her daughter around for dinner later.
Aaliyah will love the company and I get to relax a little.