I feel so crap today

[CrackerOfNuts]

I just want to go to bed and stay there forever.

I feel so drained and like I am not quite with it. Every single thing seems like a huge task. I just walked into the kitchen to wash up, looked at the bowl full of dishes and felt to overwhelmed with it, and so came back on here.

It's washing up fgs.

[TrinityTheProgressingRhino]

I feel the same today

[TrinityTheProgressingRhino]

try hanging out in here

[CrackerOfNuts]

Ta trinity

[lackaDAISYcal]

Is it snowing where you are?

Can you take the DCs out for a snowball fight; that'll blow away some cobwebs

[CrackerOfNuts]

Nope, well it did snow overnight, but it had all gone by this morning.

Dc's are off to their dads at 1, so I will have to tidy up then as won't have an excuse.

I just constantly feel on the verge of tears and i'm so uninterested in everything I am scaring myself.

[lackaDAISYcal]

sorry cracker. It's not as if you can smooch around the shops today either.

I suffer from depression so know how difficult it can be some days. I often go for a long walk or a swim when I'm feeling low as it takes my mind off things and nothing ever seems quite as bad after a bit of fresh air and exercise.

[CrackerOfNuts]

My mum just rang and I couldn't even be bothered to make proper conversation.

I have loads of stuff I should be doing. My mum has just said 'have i done xyz yet'.

Wanted to say 'no, i haven't now go away and leave me alone'.

[lackaDAISYcal]

i know how that feels cracker. My house is in permanent disarray as it seems like such an effort to get things sorted. Would your mum come and give you a hand?

I would forget about it today; consciously decide to forget the chores (otherwiose you'll just fret that you're not doing them) and concentrate on getting your headspace sorted today. Do something nice just for yourself.

Saying that, I have to go and get lunch on now or we'll not be eating till midafternoon.

I hope you feel better soon

[ICKLEFLUFFYCHICK]

I feel the same I feel as tho I have no energy and just could go back bed. I mean I get up this morning and garden full with snow so cannot hide eggies outside as ds has terrible cold. I might just go and have a LOOOOOONNNNNG soak in a radox bath!! Ah bliss.........

[ICKLEFLUFFYCHICK]

Or I might go out and stick my head in the snow that should wake me up

[Thecure]

Take control darling. It's your life. You have only one life. DOING things is the answer. You might not feel like it, but force yourself, and then hey presto, you'll FEEL better. SO go on, right now, go and do those dishes. Then have some lovely treat lined up for afterwards - whatever works for you - a nice cup of tea or buy yourself some flowers, whatever. Life is short and precious. My mum was forever depressed and it is a Waste of Time. You know, you really can control your feelings - you do have the power!

[CrackerOfNuts]

I would love to be able to take control, I really would, how to do it though seems to escape me at the moment, and it is my life seeming so out of my control that is making me feel so down i think.

I have washed up anyway, and just been and gave the bathroom a quick wipe round.

My brother is popping over in a bit too, which is nice, although I am ont really in the mood for seeing anyone, I will be fine once he is here.

[seb1]

I have had a cold for over 10 days can't shake it, wake up have energy for 10 mins then want to go back to sleep.

[seb1]

Also this weather is not helping it is so cold and I find that very draining when you are not 100%. Surely it should be mild and sunny by niw and I could go out in the garden that normally lifts my mood.

[Thecure]

OK, how to take control: it's in your mind.

Picture yourself in control. Think about you being happy. Think about everything going well. Seb1 think of yourself well - no cold. Don't even entertain 'downbeat' thoughts.

Cracker, don't worry about the house being spotless. It's ok to be messy. Ok to even be a slob (tho, yeah, neat environment will make you feel a bit better!).
Cracker, how would life be if you were happy RIGHT NOW? What would you do? What would you change?
Sometimes you have to push your comfort zone. E.g. you don't wanna see anyone, put know you'll feel better once your bro is here. Become an actress. Pretend to be the person you'd like to be and I bet you become her. Hey, I could even try taking some of my own advice.
I know life can be hard and I spent years depressed (silently depressed - which is the most dangerous) but what a waste. It's ok not to be perfect and equally it's ok to have a big and happy life. In fact, I bet you deep down want the latter and not the former. How do I know? Cos you've taken control and done a bit of cleaning - this demonstrates you want to be better and you will be!
You deserve to be happy and you'll make your kids happier, your family happier and the world a better place!

[Janni]

Pick one small job eg washing the cups. Focus all your energy on that - don't think about anything else that needs doing. Then reward yourself eg 10 mins on MN. Do the same with the next little job. You really need to break it down when you're overwhelmed, not look at everything that needs doing and feel unable to do anything.