Does your DH accept/understand your depression? If not, how did you help him to?

[LadyOfWaffle]

I have been depressed to some extent or another since I met DH 4 years ago, and still he cannot get his head around it/accept it. He has come to the point of "ok, we will agree to disagree/ you have to accept I can't accept it" - he truely believes it's just a state of mind and I really can just 'get over it'. He isn't being nasty about it, he just doesn't get it... but I can't seem to get/help him to get it. My PTSD therapist said she'd talk to him about it, but he never went and that fizzled out, I have put really simple, easy to read/understand info infront of him and he either won't read it, or brushes it aside, or point out the bits about less severe depression just being like feeling abit low for abit, and sometimes you can get over it. How do you do it? To make matters worse - well, to add insult to injury he will happily accept the DLA I get for it

[twinsetandpearls]

My dp really struggles to get my depression, in some ways being admitted into hospital a few months ago was the best thing that could have happened to us as dp was in the hospital with me and could ask doctors/nurses questions.

Until then I think he thought I was just a bit dramatic and lazy We went through a really horrible period of him getting very angry with me and being quite cruel, he once shouted at me "There you go, going all psycho again" and I left him over that and it tool a while to repair the hurt and damage.

Dp also seems to want to fix it and things depression means that you are just a bit unhappy and that if we do things that make us happy it will all go away. When I am in a light depression that actually can work to a certain extent but if I am in the depths of depression having him sat next to me making lists of happy things can push me to the brink.

I also think to be fair to dp it is very hard living with somone who has a mental illness. Dp has had to go from being my lover to being my unpaid carer and often with little thanks. Tonight we had a tiff as I am still very very tired and he has been running the house, looking after dd and working for months and he is exhausted.