Am i such a bad mum

[SHEENA1]

I have a 21 month old daughter and pregnant with babyboy i am 30 weeks atarting to get really stressed and depressed my daughter has in the past 2 weeks turned in to a wee monster being very agressive throwing big tantrums for nothing and basically doing all she can to get on my nerves . i always seam to be shouting at her and giving her a row i feel i could really give her a good smack i dont belive in hitting or smacking and never have done so but at times i feel she needs it all i keep doing is crying and telling myself i am a lousey mum i suffered post natal depression after i had her (mild) and i am so scared this is the 1st signs of it starting again

just wondered if anyone felt the same or been there and can give me some advice on how to cope .

[BeeWiseMen]

I haven't been there but wanted to respond. You must be very very tired at the moment and tiredness makes us impatient and angry. Your daughter is probably just picking up on your mood. Are you getting any breaks where you can have a nap or a soak in the bath or just do nothing? That sounds pathetic doesn't it but you really sound like you need some time to yourself.

[mumfor1standfinaltime]

Agree with beewisemen, you need to step back and try to chill. It is easy to say, but not always to do.
When my ds is winding me up I will put him in his room for half and hour with some toys and a video and make myself a cuppa or have a bath. Just try to clear your head and keep calm.
I felt very down after ds was born as I had a very traumatic birth. It is important to keep your identity when you feel down, so put on your fave comdey dvd, go for a walk, go and see an old friend, basically do what you always 'used to do' before little one came along.
My sister has just had little girl number 2 and my niece is 3 years old and very jealous so I can sympathise.

[SHEENA1]

aw thankyou i am just prob tired as u say and it doesn't help when i have her all day long on my own my dp works and mum is disabled so i am kind of alone and if i try to put her in her cot or room for a few mins she just starts screamin constantly as u say im prob tired just feel like i cant do right for doing wrong

[mumfor1standfinaltime]

Sounds like you have your hands full.
Maybe try taking her out to local park, somewhere you can sit and chill, and let her run some of her energy off. Or maybe an indoor soft play area?
I sometimes try to sit ds down at the table for some quiet time, do some painting, sticking, crayons, or just helping you to wash up, or to play with some water?

Do you have a friend or relative who could baby sit for an hour so you can have a bath/nap.

[fortyplus]

I lost my marbles completely when I has ds2. You need other mums to chill out with! Little kids are programmed to be demanding, you just have to deal with it somehow and not take it personally. It all stems from our ancient ancestors and thge little kid that was always demanding of its parents would survive. Don't beat yourself up over it - it's a stressful time.