I can't trust my mum or my sister.

[MsSparklingXmasTree]

Following on from this thread i emailed my sister. It was a very long, personal letter explaining all my feelings about things from the past and present and telling her that i have suffered depression for the last 6 years which is something neither she nor my mum new about.

She wrote back basically saying because our mum never beat us or sold drugs then i don't really have anything to be upset about. I explained to her that just because our mum didn't harm me physically, it doesn't mean my sister and mum didn't harm me mentally and emotionally.

Then on Saturday my mum says she wanted to talk to me. I said i would see her on Sunday and before i went round i asked my sister if she new what it was mum wanted to talk to me about. My sister said she had told mum about me thinking she had stolen money from me and in her words "i didn't do it to shit stir, i just wanted you guys to sort things out."

So i went round my mums and she denied the stealing money and said how hurt she felt me accusing her. I still don't believe she didn't steal off of me and to make things worse, while my sister told her about me thinking mum had stolen off of me, she convienently forgot to mention that she (my sis) thought mum had stolen off her too and the reason she stopped mum cleaning her place was because "mum snoops and steals money."

My sister not only told mum that but also showed her the emails i sent her which were strictly private and for no one else to read but her She has also shown her boyfriend and another friend of hers. So she has really stirred the shit and i am so angry with her and i really don't want to speak to her again.

I don't trust my mum or my sister at all now, what would you do?

[MsSparklingXmasTree]

Anyone

[pukkapatch]

dont speak to her again
she isnt worthy of the title of sister

[MsSparklingXmasTree]

I haven't spoken to her since i had the chat with my mum yesterday. Should i tell her i don't want to speak to her and am really annoyed she showed my letter to people or should i just stay silent?

[pukkapatch]

it depends entirelyon your relationship with your sister.
personally, i would have a really good argy bargy screaming mathc at my sister. but i have a good relationship with her.
i dont think you should interact too much with them because they seem to be quite toxic for you. i havent read the thread you mentioned , but, if someone is causingyou unhappiness and stress, it is better to remove that stress until you are well enough in yourself to deal with it. obviously we cant ditch our kids when it is them causing the stress, but we can avoid adults, until we are able to deal with them on our own terms.

blu alwasy gives really good advice. i hope she comes along soon.

[pukkapatch]

okie, just read your op in the other thread.
my advice is to stay far away from these toxic people. you want to surroundyourself with love and happiness. they wont let you.
this is your life. live it the way you want to live it. not htey way they want to.
dont email you r sister. dont phone her. ignore texts etc etc etc. same with yoru mother. if they come round, be polite and civil, but leave it at that.