Hello, I don't know if anyone is awak now or not.
I have never posted on here before, but have been reading all the posts for years. I have always wanted to post on here, but have always been worried incase I get 'found out' by someone I know.
Basically I have been having a terrible month. I thought I would feel better by now, but I don't, I just feel shitty every day.
I have three children under 5, and an older child from my first disastrous marriage.
I have a two year old who has special needs, I don't know what exactly, still waiting for assessment. I think he is very delayed. He is extremely difficult, and has tantrums every two minutes, and is getting extremely violent during them. I have a 10 month old, and a four year old. I am exhausted all the time.
I have no family around me, I have acquaintances but no real friends. I have never really had any great friends. I think maybe I am just too annoying, or boring, or not cool enough to have friends.
My mother doesn't talk to me,my brothers don't either. Because I refuse to talk to my father, he abused me as a child, and everyone else just acts as though it didn't happen, but I can't do this. I am not mad, they want to believe I am so that they can live in their own little world of make-believe and pretend. Or maybe they are glad it didn't happen to them, and maybe if I disappeared they could just get on with their (fantasy)lives. But it really hurts me that they can just push me aside and not care about me or what I went through. As if I am nothing, just an inconvenience. I am 40 years old now, I left home at 18, and the nightmares won't go away. I look at my darling children, and I don't understand how anyone would want to hurt me at that age, how can anyone hurt a poor little angel like that?
Now they are sorting out their last 'will and testament', and my sister has joined their madness and is pretending along with them, and has stopped taking my calls. I hate that it still hurts me, and I hate that I let them get to me, when I know I shouldn't let them. I feel like screaming at my mother, I am your child, and yuo have done nothing to protect me! I would kill anyone who hurt my babies, but you let him hurt me and protect the others. I can't get over how rubbish I must be to you, that you let me get hurt.
Sorry for rambling, I jsut feel solow, and when I feel like this, I look at everything in my life and it all ets me down, except my babies. I just wish I was a better mummy to them. I have an 18 year-old who remembers that I used to have a head-ache all the time when he was small. That makes me feel so that he remembers me this way.I look at my children and I want them to have a happy childhood, and I don't want them to remember mummy always having a headache, or being too tired.
I wish I could get over this!
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deeeja · 07/09/2007 00:58
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