I feel so alone and overwraught. Just had yet another almighty row with my partner. Am 28 wks pregnant with second and yet again I completely lost it with him, in front of my daughter which I am v. ashamed of. He has an important exam in 2 weeks and is stressed. But I seem to also be going through emotional, depressed hell, can't get a full night's sleep because of my hurting hips and finding being a SAHM very draining on top. I can't seem to take charge of my feelings - we'd argued over something earlier then I left him to revise all afternoon. I worked hard to make dinner, but when I said it was ready he just told my daughter to tell me he wasn't hungry - I found he'd been eating chocolates all afternoon whilst revising. I thought he'd done it on purpose over our earlier row and it sent me wild. I'd worked so hard to be with my DD nearly all day so he could revise and then he couldn't even be bothered to apologise for not coming to eat with us. After shouting at him he realised and said he would at least sit with us but it by then I was wild with anger, unable to control myself. I said something I sometimes say when I'm v. angry, which is that he should go. I then find, yet again, that he is packing his bags and going. I then went into hormonal overdrive, begging him not to leave me alone at this time and that I'm incredibly sorry. Only this time, instead of talking it through (or rather, firstly shouting, then talking) he said he had to think of his exams that he's been revising so hard for and leave for a few days. Ultimately, after disrespecting myself completely and begging him to stay, I became calm but even when talking we couldn't agree and he said he was going for one night to his sister's. I'm not sure I believe him but I think so - the thing is I keep thinking this is the beginning of the end of us and I am so overwraught that I will be alone when I am feeling at my most vulnerable. I have already put this baby through so much by crying and screaming - I'm even wondering if it will be ok... in rows my partner has said some truly disgusting things to me (like calling me a silly b*h and telling my pregnant belly that her mother is a silly cow) but after he is totally ashamed and says sorry. I am so beside myself with crying and hurt and vulnerability and can't believe he's gone, even for one night, when I'm feeling so vulnerable. I've already told the doctor about all my crying over my relationship and they have recommended me to an in-house counsellor, only I haven't been yet because I feel so ashamed that I can't get through this on my own. I plan to finally arrange an appointment tomorrow, as I feel I'm too ashamed this has all happened to talk to friends and I'm not sure I want to tell my mum yet again about the terrible row I've had, because she's suggested all the things that she can. Please let there be someone there to tell me it's all going to be alright.
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Think partner has left, 28 wks pregnant with second, feel so alone
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Frothycoffeegirl · 20/05/2007 21:42
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