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DH comments and AQ test. Advice please.

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WindInThePussyWillows Thu 20-Oct-16 14:29:56

For over a year now my DH has been urging me to seek some help for a few 'issues' he thinks I have.
I've never actioned his concerns but it's getting out of hand and I'm scared.

First of all, he has been saying for a long long time that I become very fixated on something, long past the point it becomes irrelevant to the situation/topic. If we have a row and he says something I construed to be grammatically incorrect or wrong I will not be able to continue the conversation until I have shown him how he is wrong and how he should have phrased it.

Secondly, I have stopped most communications with my friends in a variety of friendship groups and rarely go out the house alone. I enjoy the company of those who know me best: DH, mum and dad.
Further to this, I have a very set routine and becomes very upset by small changes that alter my routine.

For example, I keep the baby bottles in the top left hand cupboard, and collect them, move them to the middle of the worktop to add the boiled water and then to the far right to add the formula. DH moved the bottles to the middle cupboard and I had a very sudden outburst, tears and I shouted. Having them in the middle doesn't make sense to me and it caused me great anguish that my little conveyer belt method of working from one end to the other wasn't possible.

I have a rare afternoon to myself and I decided to look into things.
His main concern is my fixation on things, be it a routine or a passing comment I will not let go.

I've been on google (I know, I know) and came across the AQ test.
I scored 38, re did the test and scored 36, re did the test and scored 38 again.

I don't fully understand the interpretation of the results, or what I should do?

I'm very anxious and saddened at the prospects of there being something 'wrong' with me.

Parietal Thu 20-Oct-16 14:39:47

Hi. The AQ test is not a diagnosis. But if you are anxious and struggling to cope with little things in daily life (like moving bottles) then go to see you GP.

Lancelottie Thu 20-Oct-16 14:49:19

I just tried that test (I'm bored today) and put in what I would say are fairly moderate answers.

I got 36 too. I suspect you'd have to be a complete out and out extrovert party animal, not a sleep-deprived and anxious new parent, to score in its 'normal' range.

I agree with Parietal: if you are struggling with anxiety since having your baby (I shall assume you weren't randomly making up baby bottles for yourself), see your GP.

WindInThePussyWillows Thu 20-Oct-16 15:15:53

Yes bottles for babies not for myself grin, 6 month old twins.

I want to speak to my GP and that's what DH has been suggesting. But what do I say when I make an appointment?
I get very anxious and my husband rearranged the kitchen. I sound nuts.

Parietal Thu 20-Oct-16 16:06:22

Just say you are very anxious about everyday things. Your health visitor might also be able to help you get the right help.

PhoenixMama Fri 28-Oct-16 17:54:35

It sounds very much like you have Post Natal OCD. There's a great site (US based) called Postpartum Progress which list all the different symptoms for the different postnatal mh issues. It massively helped me seeing the looong list of symptoms & how many of them I had.

PhoenixMama Fri 28-Oct-16 17:55:52

I hit Post too soon. Wanted to say do speak to your GP- they've seen it before & you can feel totally normal again.

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